I am a stay at home mom with three kids and a husband who is self employed. I have

[Lynn]

helped with the business? the best I can. He is irresponsible, spends money as he pleases and I just found out he has had an affair. I have given my life to this man. I graduated college 6 years ago and sacraficed my career goals so he could join the army and take care of the family...very noble! He should have stayed in. He is great at what he does now just very stupid when it comes to making decisions and keeping records. I have three kids to think about along with a house my parents helped us buy. I'm not sure what to do since I have stayed home so long a not really done anything for myself...just my family I am in a difficult place and was wondering how you break free from all this especially in the economy today. I still have a lot of love for him, but seriously the trust is gone, There is a lot of things to consider...I don't want my family broken up without trying. The kids adore their daddy. Mommy just wasn't giving him all the love he needed...all the time!!! Anybody been in this situation and what did you do?