I am a confused individual.

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softballbabe0034

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As some of you probably know, I was raised in a Christian home by Christian parents. I shared their beliefs until I was about... I dunno... 16 years old. Then I started developing my own beliefs.

Now I'm 20. I still live with my mom. Yet, I don't share her beliefs. At all. But, I don't know why, but I can't seem to talk to her about it. It might be the recent split of my parents, what she's doing to support us, whatever... I don't know. I love my mother. I love all she's doing for us. Yet, I can't seem to talk to her for some reason.

She still thinks I share the same beliefs as her. I do the going to church thing. Sleep through it all, go home, twice every sunday. It's not just my mother, either. I can't seem to talk to anybody about it. I've never been good at communication... I rarely even talk to those I trust the most. Which is why I have no idea why the hell I'm telling this to you, a bunch of people on the internet who I don't even know. :confused:

I guess I get things across better through writing. I don't know.

Like I said, I'm confused.
 
I guess it's hard to talk to people.
But It really depends on you,If it bothers you that she doesn't know you believe in the same thing she does. If so, then you will have to tell her in a suttle, or not way.
and BTW, sometimes it's easier to talk to someone anonymous, like on the internet.
 
Communication is key and with out it you are lost! You are 20 years old now and a big boy at that!! Mom will have to learn to except the fact you are not of the same faith or of any! I my few years on this planet as a father a son and a practically a husband I have learned one thing! COMMUNICATION!

Bottling things up is bad and you should never have too! Be who you are and what you want! It feels better knowing your not BS'n people especially your close family!!
 
I was raised in a Catholic home.. and yet I have have left that faith and have no specific religion as my own now.. I operate more on my morals and personal beliefs... since my parents divorce my mother considers herself to be christian now... my father is still catholic and isnt happy with my decision, but also respects it...
 
Maybe it's just me, but do you really have to tell her? You'll be moving out soon enough to be with ur girl and start a new life there and you'll be far away from home. Your mom won't know what you're doing or what your beliefs are. I wouldn't even bring it up at this point. Your mom has a lot on her mind trying to support the family and keep everything together now that your Dad isn't there anymore. Maybe in the future you'll be able to tell her, but for now, maybe it just isn't one of those things that she has to know about. But that's just me. I don't know what u want to do.
 
The thing about that, maggie, is I don't know when I"m gonna be moving out.

Could be next month... 2 months... 5 months. Maybe longer.

That depends on a lot of things.

But, as Twist said, maybe I should just sit mom down and talk to her. There's a lot of shit I want to get off my chest that has been building up since I was 16.
 
Well, I can speak from my own personal experience, this is a hard issue for some familes to swallow. I was raised in 3 different types of church. I no longer participate in any religion at all. My family has come to terms with that but it's taken them nearly 15 years.

The best you can do is to talk to your mom openly about it. Tell her how you feel about church but make sure she understands you're not talking about her. She's going through a lot yes, so are you. Just make sure that you don't make her feel like you're turnning your back or attacking her. Just say, "Mom, I'm not going to to church on Sundays anymore. I don't believe that stuff and I feel like I'm lieing just by being there." She probably won't take it well so be prepared for the fire works.

You have to do what's right for you. Remember that. No matter what she says or does, you're responsible for you and not anyone else. Be considerate of others feelings yes, but don't try to protect their feelings at the sake of your own.
 
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