My husband and I are under major financial stress right now. I just got a part-time job which was very difficult to come by these days. His mom has helped us by paying our bills. I need full time work but now near christmas is going to be near impossible to find anything.
(holiday help is already hired.)
He doesn't work at all...due to some health/ legal things which I won't get into.
Last night he woke up at 2am and says he can't sleep....and accuses me of not really being stressed out from our situation becuase I can sleep. My mind goes crazy during the day and when I am at work learning a new job and going to the store and watching other famililes who seem to be able to have a non stressful life.
I tried to explain this to him and he says he doesn't see that I am effected. Now I feel like I shouldn't be able to sleep too...so I feel inadequate. I also think that depression can make people sleep more and anxiety can make you stress during your waking hours. I do handle stress very well...and I feel that in order to get through this nasty time in our lives....I have to deal with it in a healthy way for our kids sake and to be able to get up to work everyday.
Any comments from anyone? How can I be more empathetic towards my husband? I know he has stress from not working and stuff, but to make me try and feel like I dont' show any kinds of stress...that's just wrong. I want him to know that I am stressed and many times I HAVE told him just how stressed I am and he responds and says " don't worry everything will be fine" and " don't get all worked up right now."
I am so confused....
(holiday help is already hired.)
He doesn't work at all...due to some health/ legal things which I won't get into.
Last night he woke up at 2am and says he can't sleep....and accuses me of not really being stressed out from our situation becuase I can sleep. My mind goes crazy during the day and when I am at work learning a new job and going to the store and watching other famililes who seem to be able to have a non stressful life.
I tried to explain this to him and he says he doesn't see that I am effected. Now I feel like I shouldn't be able to sleep too...so I feel inadequate. I also think that depression can make people sleep more and anxiety can make you stress during your waking hours. I do handle stress very well...and I feel that in order to get through this nasty time in our lives....I have to deal with it in a healthy way for our kids sake and to be able to get up to work everyday.
Any comments from anyone? How can I be more empathetic towards my husband? I know he has stress from not working and stuff, but to make me try and feel like I dont' show any kinds of stress...that's just wrong. I want him to know that I am stressed and many times I HAVE told him just how stressed I am and he responds and says " don't worry everything will be fine" and " don't get all worked up right now."
I am so confused....