Husband anxious about missing out on having sex but we have it whenever he wants it?

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cassiopoeia_au

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We have been married for a year been together for five - before we were together he was with an older lady for a long time over ten years of which a lot of this time they did not have sex - months or years in between.
My husband prioritizes sex very much. I am taking antidepressant medication which affects my libido, however I take into account his desires, so we have sex whenever he wants it which is usually every second day.
But every weekend he gets all stressed and anxious because he thinks we won't get to have sex on the weekend - yet there hasn't been a weekend we have missed out.
Why is he so worried about it and what can I do to prove that we will always have time to be intimate together?
 
Well you should ask him, is this really about intimacy or is he just using you as a sexual "release". There's definitely a big difference. I'm not sure how old you are but if you two really have sex every second day, that should be enough to where he wouldn't complain. Most men are thankful and happy to have sex 5-8 times a month. But really should ask him about it though. Because if it's just about the sexual release then masturbation is always an alternative.
 
The thing I noticed here is that you have sex every time he wants it. Are you pursuing it? Perhaps if you took more control and pursued him sexually, he would start to relax and feel more like you want it as much as him. He might feel you don't really want is as you only do it when he wants it, not that you are actively going for it. Get some toys, movies, things he can do on his own too and encourage him to do it. Many men don't realize how much sex toys for them can enhance the sex they have with you, plus he'll realize that he can find a wonderful release on those days when you just don't feel like it.
 
Your husband has some issues, obviously. He is probably dreading a repeat of his previous relationship. Sex is very important to a man....not the be all and end all...but certainly important. I have issues as well.....we don't have it very often and I get sad every time, right after we have sex, because I am then dreading the long time it's going to be until we have it again. I get pretty near tears at the time I should be enjoying the "afterglow". I would say you should talk to him, impress on him that you realize the importance of sex and that it will always be a priority to you...and when you are able to cut down or get off the antidepressants (you shouldn't stay on them forever), you will get your libido back and be on him like white on rice. Good luck to you.
 
This marraige won't last long....ticking away as I speak. Get of any medication. Why are you on it anyway? Make yourself available to your husband by being a real person. He wants someone who really loves and desires him and share sex as a couple.
 
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