How would you judge me if you knew the facts not the reasons?

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Ok so people often judge me before they know me and I want to know what you think about me after 1) only knowing the facts and then when 2) you know the reasons. So if you click the answer button you can write the sort of person you think I am from 1) and then from 2), whether I'd be someone you'd socialise with and then I can see the differences. Thanks in advance.

1) I'm 23 and I'm pregnant with my 6th child who have a total of 3 fathers. I've not seen my dad since I was 11 when he tried to kidnap me. Both my brothers have died and my younger sister lives in the US with her husband and 3 kids. I live with my fiance, kids, my niece and nephew.

2) My first child was conceived when I was raped so that was father #1. My second was from my long-term boyfriend who did a runner after I told him so that's father #2. My third, fourth and fifth are triplets and they, along with my bump are from father #3 - my fiance.
My father left when I was 9 after my ma found about his affair. He tried to get back in our good books by picking me up from school but instead it was more like kidnap.
As for my siblings, my sister had her 3 kids young but is still happily married to their father and they moved to the US after he got a promotion. One of my brothers died in a car accident while the either died of thyroid cancer metastasizing to his brain. Both of their wives had died in a house fire years before so I got custody of my niece and nephew.
angeriez - I don't agree with abortions. But my daughter was born 18 weeks early and passed away so I did have my childhood still in that sense. But my second son was born not long before my 19th birthday so I wasn't as young as some people think I was.
 
hey girl, i didnt need to read number 2....i wouldnt have judged you from number 1 and anyone who would judge you should be ashamed of themselves. The fact is, there are always reasons for actions and circumstances and there are always stories behind lives. At the end of the day you are a young woman who has survived so much, i can relate to this.....you should be praised not judged and i hope you have someone to tell you how proud they are of you....if not then i will say it.....Im proud of you girl, You're a survivor! May God be With you....I know He is....xxxx
 
What a difference of my opinion from info 1 to info 2! Just goes to show how you can judge a person unfairly. Makes me ashamed actually!

23 and pregnant with 6th child - you automatically assume you've had one per year from 16 or similar! But triplets from your present relationship - oh what a lot of hard work you have on your hands.

Wishing you well.
 
1. (before reading 2) I'd say you grew up in unfortunate circumstances and went through a lot. You probably have daddy issues which is why you had sex (and kids) so young.

2. You still grew up under unfortunate circumstances, and had to grow up fast because of the rape and subsequent child*. I'm sure you're very responsible, but unfortunately didn't get much of a childhood.

Sometimes really good people just get the worst luck. But if you're happy now that's all that matters.


*just curious...what are your views on abortion? I know you wouldn't give your kids up for anything im sure, but what if your childhood could have extended for a bit? This is out of honest curiosity, no political stabs or anything
 
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