How to make up after 4nights of fights and no sex....?

[qtangel_23]

So, My boyfriend and I have been fighting for the past 4nights.. We are both sick and tired of it. It only happens at night when I get home from work. We would be texting each other sweet nothings during the day, and when we get home, something happens and we both blow up. There is no cheating in this relationship, because there is just no way for we spend time with each other a lot.(its also not because we spend a lot of time with each other, because we both want to. He tells me he wants to!)

Whenever we get into the sack, I asked him to be a little bit more, loving, gentle romantic approach, not take of my underwear and lets do it. We have been doing it that way for a long time and I was just asking him this one thing. And another problem is that I have been spotting for the past 4days and that is kind of hindering me from wanting to get into the sack...I dont like being dirty..its a turn off, for me.....We fight at night and when we wake up in the morning and during the day, we say sorry, we are all lovey dovey.. we eat lunch together..its all love..but when It comes in the sack, I pull away because not only am I spotting but it will really get me into the mood if he just approached me like how I asked him to. I will go the extra mile to do it with him even if im spotting(which already is a turn of for ME) and it will just help if he'd turn me on by being a little bit more lovey, not take my underwear off and lets do it..Im not even asking for foreplay! Im just asking for sweet kiss on the cheek, that comes with, "honey you look so beautiful tonight, I cant help myself" something along those lines. "i love you so much" with kissing me on my neck and just soft touch all over...I voiced this out to him already...but still...That was my end of my frustration..and his frustration is the fighting about little things and no sex for 4 days.

I love him to death, we are both sick and tired of fighting, but most definately in love with each other. This has never happened before. I want to make it up to him, what can I do, Please serious answers only.
No dirty stuff,..because It will happen..Trust me, Im just as horny as he is, I just want him to be Love Horny..not fuck horny!

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY..NO STUPID CRITISISM
I LOVE HIM, HE LOVES ME, NO DOUBT..so please help....

 

[wendy]

Maybe you should try the kissing and the touching before reaching the bedroom.If you are both tired already when you get there moods can be triggered and he could just be reading into it as criticism not helpful criticism.
If the arguments tend to start around that point you will both be on edge and expecting it so will be ready and waiting in a way to defend yourself.When you know bed times approaching move in kiss him make him feel wanted.Ask him if he wants to take it through to the bedroom.If you both feel wanted sparks will fly but not those that come from hurt feelings.

 

[secret star]

wow. I have been there with my husband and it really is hard. When you get home from work you guys should make a nice dinner (together) get a good movie and sit down and snuggle together.
If he is stressed about something or you.. try not to blow up in eachothers faces. sit down and talk about what you can do to resolve this.
go for a nice drive together to the sea or country.

You want to know a secret? The worst thing for a relationship is to take your anger to bed. SO if you guys have a fight make a deal that when you go to bed together, not to bring any negative things into the bedroom. BECOUSE that can ruin a relationship.
Good Luck xx

 

[yaktur]

You can't fight two fires at the same time.

You're fighting and then you're struggling to be loving.

Solve the fighting issue FIRST because this can tear your apart the fastest. After you solve that, the loving problem may solve itself!