I'm kind of a quiet, nervous girl. I'm really good at becoming friends with girls. I have no issues there at all... I'm a model and in high school when girls would meet me initially they would treat me a bit harshly out of stupid jealousy things, but when they realized I was just kind of a meek girl who is really just easy-going, they ended up liking me. I'm great with other girls.
In high school I had maybe... one guy friend. I've always been afraid of guys...for no reason. I'm afraid of the ones I like, I'm afraid of the ones I don't like...
I can be friendly and nice and totally casual with married men who are like 35+. One of my favorite people is a man who owns the restaurant next door to my work. I'll use these guys as an example... I am totally cool with the owner who is 38 and married with two kids and one of his workers who is a man in his 40's as well as a boy who works there and is 16, so he's younger than me. But the two guys who work there who are in their 20's... forget about it. I don't have an interest in either of them, but I have trouble just having a conversation with them.
The one guy is always nice to me...and he has been since day one. He's been generous (letting me pay later when my credit card wasn't working), chivalrous (leading me with his hand on the small of my back), always friendly, and of course he always remembers my order and tells the other guys what I want (turkey and cheese with only lettuce and mayo, and a side of soup... but no crackers because I don't touch them and wrap half of the sandwich because I only eat half of it and take the rest with me).
I think I may have offended him or made him uncomfortable because sometimes he isn't as friendly to me.
Since he's been so kind and just is a really nice person, I would love to be his friend. I just don't know how. Its like I can have a conversation about anything with his boss who is 38, but with him I'm so secretive. I don't know why I do this or how to just talk to him. How do I?
In high school I had maybe... one guy friend. I've always been afraid of guys...for no reason. I'm afraid of the ones I like, I'm afraid of the ones I don't like...
I can be friendly and nice and totally casual with married men who are like 35+. One of my favorite people is a man who owns the restaurant next door to my work. I'll use these guys as an example... I am totally cool with the owner who is 38 and married with two kids and one of his workers who is a man in his 40's as well as a boy who works there and is 16, so he's younger than me. But the two guys who work there who are in their 20's... forget about it. I don't have an interest in either of them, but I have trouble just having a conversation with them.
The one guy is always nice to me...and he has been since day one. He's been generous (letting me pay later when my credit card wasn't working), chivalrous (leading me with his hand on the small of my back), always friendly, and of course he always remembers my order and tells the other guys what I want (turkey and cheese with only lettuce and mayo, and a side of soup... but no crackers because I don't touch them and wrap half of the sandwich because I only eat half of it and take the rest with me).
I think I may have offended him or made him uncomfortable because sometimes he isn't as friendly to me.
Since he's been so kind and just is a really nice person, I would love to be his friend. I just don't know how. Its like I can have a conversation about anything with his boss who is 38, but with him I'm so secretive. I don't know why I do this or how to just talk to him. How do I?