cherryfox22
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So to make a long story short, my Dad and stepmom, Melissa, were married for 10 years, but during the last 4 years fought a lot. My dad ended up divorcing Melissa (who I grew up with since I was 5 and does home daycare, always took care of me) and dating Melissa's friend, Anna. Anna and my dad eventually get married. My dad is turned in by his work for defrauding the court, which is a class 1 felony offense or something. (he got a huge bonus or something ~$34,000 when working out of state, that he didn't put in his financial records). But he used all of it to clean the house (Melissa was awful house keeper, had to tear up carpet black mold, paint all walls, bleach a lot, etc. but couldn't be proved in court) Dad keeps the house, Melissa moves out with 6 yo daughter, Anna moves in with Dad( and her 3 boys). Melissa sues my dad for $17,000. Says she will drop the suing, but instead puts a lean on Dads house for $17,000. For 4 years, dad and Anna HATE Melissa, say she is pulling games and telling my little sister, who is now 9, bad things to say to my dad and Anna, my dad refuses to see my little sister, and hasn't for 2 years now.Tons of awful things.
Hopefully that makes sense. So this is some things that Anna has told me
-Melissa has stalked/followed Anna and my dad all around the city a lot
-Melissa smeared human feces on the walls of the house before moving out
-Melissa wants to be back with my dad/can't move on
-Melissa tells my little sister what to say (i.e. daddy hates me and shouldn't be living with anna)
-Melissa is twisted and manipulative
-Melissa emptied out my bank account and took all the money
I talked to Melissa yesterday and asked her about all the above and she said
-Where would I have time between driving all the daycare kids to/from school and other places to stalk your dad?
-She couldn't believe Anna told me that
-Why the f** would I want to be with him?!
-Your sister is really smart, and then she told me about dreams my sister has had (she has a very overactive imagination since she's been little) and that she never would do that to my sister
-My dad and mom set up the account, she didn't have access to my money and it all got transferred to my new bank account when I set it up
It was a really heartfelt, honest conversation that we had, rather than when I just listen to Anna just rant and rant about Melissa.
I am not allowed to mention Melissa to my dad, he is seriously suicidal when her name comes up because she has made his life hell and refuses to talk with her on the phone.
I didn't see Melissa for 2 years (nor talked to her) when living with my dad because I wasn't allowed to otherwise he said he would disown me, and therefore never saw my Grandma (my stepmoms mom) who I was extremely close with and loved immensely, she taught me how to cook gourmet and we would spend hours playing sonic together. No place I'd rather be where I was as happy as her house. Well turns out during those 2 years her cancer got worse, and after only 6 months of seeing her/talking wither her, she had to go to ICU and passed away there because the cancer spread everywhere. I still live with that guilt of never standing up to my dad to see her, when she only had so little time left. I never knew she had cancer until I got the call when she went to the
hospital.
So I guess that's why it's important for me to know if Melissa is lying to me or is Anna? I've been avoiding Melissa because Anna says she is ruining my dads life, and I love my dad and if she is deliberately messing with him than I want to know. On the other hand, if Anna is lying to me, than I want to be able to see Melissa with out guilt and enjoy time with her, because you never know when you can lose a person. Melissa has always been there for me, never guilt trips me for just asking for her to take me places and will volunteer to drive an hour away to get me something I need/want, while Anna tells me that my dad and her both are mad I never come by to say hi and just use them to get a ride (my cars broke) even though I pay for gas usually, and buy them a $50 dinner from my work once a month. And buy them groceries when they take me grocery shopping etc.
I'm just so sick of being in the middle of things, being guilty, and just worrying about all of this all the time. It's affecting my grades, I am a college freshmen and just a huge burden it seems. I'm the one that is the messenger, and I just want the truth.
Sorry if this is just rambling, I really need some advice.
Hopefully that makes sense. So this is some things that Anna has told me
-Melissa has stalked/followed Anna and my dad all around the city a lot
-Melissa smeared human feces on the walls of the house before moving out
-Melissa wants to be back with my dad/can't move on
-Melissa tells my little sister what to say (i.e. daddy hates me and shouldn't be living with anna)
-Melissa is twisted and manipulative
-Melissa emptied out my bank account and took all the money
I talked to Melissa yesterday and asked her about all the above and she said
-Where would I have time between driving all the daycare kids to/from school and other places to stalk your dad?
-She couldn't believe Anna told me that
-Why the f** would I want to be with him?!
-Your sister is really smart, and then she told me about dreams my sister has had (she has a very overactive imagination since she's been little) and that she never would do that to my sister
-My dad and mom set up the account, she didn't have access to my money and it all got transferred to my new bank account when I set it up
It was a really heartfelt, honest conversation that we had, rather than when I just listen to Anna just rant and rant about Melissa.
I am not allowed to mention Melissa to my dad, he is seriously suicidal when her name comes up because she has made his life hell and refuses to talk with her on the phone.
I didn't see Melissa for 2 years (nor talked to her) when living with my dad because I wasn't allowed to otherwise he said he would disown me, and therefore never saw my Grandma (my stepmoms mom) who I was extremely close with and loved immensely, she taught me how to cook gourmet and we would spend hours playing sonic together. No place I'd rather be where I was as happy as her house. Well turns out during those 2 years her cancer got worse, and after only 6 months of seeing her/talking wither her, she had to go to ICU and passed away there because the cancer spread everywhere. I still live with that guilt of never standing up to my dad to see her, when she only had so little time left. I never knew she had cancer until I got the call when she went to the
hospital.
So I guess that's why it's important for me to know if Melissa is lying to me or is Anna? I've been avoiding Melissa because Anna says she is ruining my dads life, and I love my dad and if she is deliberately messing with him than I want to know. On the other hand, if Anna is lying to me, than I want to be able to see Melissa with out guilt and enjoy time with her, because you never know when you can lose a person. Melissa has always been there for me, never guilt trips me for just asking for her to take me places and will volunteer to drive an hour away to get me something I need/want, while Anna tells me that my dad and her both are mad I never come by to say hi and just use them to get a ride (my cars broke) even though I pay for gas usually, and buy them a $50 dinner from my work once a month. And buy them groceries when they take me grocery shopping etc.
I'm just so sick of being in the middle of things, being guilty, and just worrying about all of this all the time. It's affecting my grades, I am a college freshmen and just a huge burden it seems. I'm the one that is the messenger, and I just want the truth.
Sorry if this is just rambling, I really need some advice.