I have a difficult time getting along with people, because im not sure what they want. I have a hard time reading between the lines of their actions or what they are saying, so i often dont know how to respond properly, get along with them by knowing how to act, and have a difficult time putting myself in their shoes. I guess I dont even try anymore, because it became exhausting to try to figure it out. For instance, my friend, who had just broken up with his girlfriend, called me crying. I didnt feel anything in particular, since I had just met him, although I knew he had a big crush on me. So i said, " are you okay?" and he said, "im crying, im miserable" so I said, "well if it makes you feel better, I think your hot". I realize NOW that was totally the wrong thing to say. i should have asked if he wanted to come over or wanted some company and that I thought he was a great person, etc etc.
Another instance is when my friends mom died, and i didnt say, "are you ok" or anything, I just said, " you are handling this so gracefully and you can get through this you are a strong person." to which she just stared at me like I was an alien and walked away. I was later told that was the wrong thing to say.
SO how can i tell what a proper response is? even if i can empathize with someone, im still never sure what to say, dont know how to start or carry a conversation (or dont care to unless im drunk) and am always always awkward (once again, unless im drunk). Do I have asperger's or something?
Another instance is when my friends mom died, and i didnt say, "are you ok" or anything, I just said, " you are handling this so gracefully and you can get through this you are a strong person." to which she just stared at me like I was an alien and walked away. I was later told that was the wrong thing to say.
SO how can i tell what a proper response is? even if i can empathize with someone, im still never sure what to say, dont know how to start or carry a conversation (or dont care to unless im drunk) and am always always awkward (once again, unless im drunk). Do I have asperger's or something?