Moony3005231
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I am 19. I am a university student. I'm living at home for the summer becausec my mom still treats me like a child & wont let me live away from home for the final 1/3 of the year, when i could have gotten an apt becausec i have a good deal of money in the bank (However, she controls my bank account.). But if i did not come to live here with my parents, she said she would no longer pay for my university. (Going in for MedDoctor., so, yes, 9 years...) However, throughout the school year, (Sept-April) I go back to the university to live on campus. (Thank god!) So i dont live at home during the actual SCHOOL YEAR.
Anyway...my mom is extremely hot-tempered. I am not allowed to do ANYTHING at home and she is ALWAYS supervising me. I have never done anything seriously wrong in my life (except, for example, maybe let the dog out 10 mins late to defecate b/c i was sick at the time.) Seriously. I always did exactly what they said, and tried to earn their respect/get them to "loosen the leach" doing all the stuff the child/parent books said.
But she is just out of control. She is constantly insulting me, no matter what I do (clean the house, make supper, fill up the car with gas, etc etc ect without being asked) she always just yells at me and insults me. (I.e. she makes me get up out of bed by 6:30am everyday, and if im not out by EXACTLY 6:30, she'll come roaring in going "get up out of bed you fat ugly piece of sh*t!"...or worse.
Anyway...I cannot discuss things with her. I am not allowed to barely go out of the house...and i cant even discuss with her WHY i should be given SOME responsibility because she wont give me a chance to say more than 2 sentences. I try calmly bringing it up, trying to be as civilized and polite as possible...and she bites my head off!! I cant keep living like this!!! Yet I cant leave (even though, by law, a person here is able to leave legally by age 14) or she (who controls the inflow of cash in the house) will not let me continue to assist me in paying for my university education. (I pay 1/2, and they pay 1/2. Yet i dont have enough money to pay for it all on my own!). . My bf (who lives with me, and hates how im always being yelled at and treated like trash by her) said his parents have offered to pay for my university, and so I should just move out and not come back. Yet that "good little girl" part of me says to keep at this battle, because family is important and I shouldnt just abandon her.
I believe she has a mental problem, yet she is deathly afraid of doctors...so she will not go and get some help for herself.
How do I deal with this? What should I do? How do I TALK to her without her going BONKERS on me before I say 2 sentances?
P.s. my dad does live with us. they fight constantly (she is contsnatly fighting both me and him) Yet he is gone on business trips 90% of the time...and gets the same treatment by her when he gets home.
Anyway...my mom is extremely hot-tempered. I am not allowed to do ANYTHING at home and she is ALWAYS supervising me. I have never done anything seriously wrong in my life (except, for example, maybe let the dog out 10 mins late to defecate b/c i was sick at the time.) Seriously. I always did exactly what they said, and tried to earn their respect/get them to "loosen the leach" doing all the stuff the child/parent books said.
But she is just out of control. She is constantly insulting me, no matter what I do (clean the house, make supper, fill up the car with gas, etc etc ect without being asked) she always just yells at me and insults me. (I.e. she makes me get up out of bed by 6:30am everyday, and if im not out by EXACTLY 6:30, she'll come roaring in going "get up out of bed you fat ugly piece of sh*t!"...or worse.
Anyway...I cannot discuss things with her. I am not allowed to barely go out of the house...and i cant even discuss with her WHY i should be given SOME responsibility because she wont give me a chance to say more than 2 sentences. I try calmly bringing it up, trying to be as civilized and polite as possible...and she bites my head off!! I cant keep living like this!!! Yet I cant leave (even though, by law, a person here is able to leave legally by age 14) or she (who controls the inflow of cash in the house) will not let me continue to assist me in paying for my university education. (I pay 1/2, and they pay 1/2. Yet i dont have enough money to pay for it all on my own!). . My bf (who lives with me, and hates how im always being yelled at and treated like trash by her) said his parents have offered to pay for my university, and so I should just move out and not come back. Yet that "good little girl" part of me says to keep at this battle, because family is important and I shouldnt just abandon her.
I believe she has a mental problem, yet she is deathly afraid of doctors...so she will not go and get some help for herself.
How do I deal with this? What should I do? How do I TALK to her without her going BONKERS on me before I say 2 sentances?
P.s. my dad does live with us. they fight constantly (she is contsnatly fighting both me and him) Yet he is gone on business trips 90% of the time...and gets the same treatment by her when he gets home.