Basically my background is this.
I fell pregnant, got really really sick with hyperemesis, which then had complications on my liver and heart. lost my baby at 13 weeks along.
exactly a year later i fell pregnant again, got relaly sick again but lost my baby at 7 weeks. it had stopped growing at 6 weeks. even though i had still been VERY VERY sick.
After everything that happened iv been told that my body cannot handle another pregnancy. there are a bunch of reasons but basically they involve my weight (im tiny and lost wayy to much way to fast), my liver, and my heart.
i nearly died during the first pregnancy and all i wanted was a second chance with my second. now that thats gone and iv been told i cannot have a pregnancy.... i dont know how to feel. im trying to see the bright side and be positive... i can adopt or mayb have a baby one day but it will take YEARRRS before my body is repaired enough to even consider it. even then there is the absoute HELL that i know ill have to go through since hyperemesis is pretty much guarenteed for me again. and the emotional hell it also brings. the depression and isolation.
to even consider it (besides the health reasons) i need to put on 20kgs...i have never been able to put on weight. i am only 43 kgs.. and im tall so its worse. so i dont know how that will ever be possible for me. it took me 2 months to put on 2kgs when i was drinking protein and eating carbs like crazy everyday.
i just feel sad that i may never or ..will have to wait YEARRRRS and even then its only a maybe. to have a baby..espeically after loosing two in just over a year
id love a baby so much. so would my hubby but we are trying to reamin postiive.
any advice
thank you.
thank you for all ur fast and sweet answers..
im still trying to deal with loosing TWO babies but i have to stay postivie otherwise ill get no where .
I was thinking surrogacy..but i dont think it is legal where i live
i live in NSW in Australia
I fell pregnant, got really really sick with hyperemesis, which then had complications on my liver and heart. lost my baby at 13 weeks along.
exactly a year later i fell pregnant again, got relaly sick again but lost my baby at 7 weeks. it had stopped growing at 6 weeks. even though i had still been VERY VERY sick.
After everything that happened iv been told that my body cannot handle another pregnancy. there are a bunch of reasons but basically they involve my weight (im tiny and lost wayy to much way to fast), my liver, and my heart.
i nearly died during the first pregnancy and all i wanted was a second chance with my second. now that thats gone and iv been told i cannot have a pregnancy.... i dont know how to feel. im trying to see the bright side and be positive... i can adopt or mayb have a baby one day but it will take YEARRRS before my body is repaired enough to even consider it. even then there is the absoute HELL that i know ill have to go through since hyperemesis is pretty much guarenteed for me again. and the emotional hell it also brings. the depression and isolation.
to even consider it (besides the health reasons) i need to put on 20kgs...i have never been able to put on weight. i am only 43 kgs.. and im tall so its worse. so i dont know how that will ever be possible for me. it took me 2 months to put on 2kgs when i was drinking protein and eating carbs like crazy everyday.
i just feel sad that i may never or ..will have to wait YEARRRRS and even then its only a maybe. to have a baby..espeically after loosing two in just over a year
id love a baby so much. so would my hubby but we are trying to reamin postiive.any advice
thank you.
thank you for all ur fast and sweet answers..
im still trying to deal with loosing TWO babies
but i have to stay postivie otherwise ill get no where .I was thinking surrogacy..but i dont think it is legal where i live
i live in NSW in Australia