How to deal with the ex-in-laws?

[mzsyd]

I have full custody of my three children. The father does not pay for child support, and gets visitations only as agreed between us. He's not the problem, but his parents gives me such a hard time. They understand I have full custody of the children but will come to my father's house (the care provider while I'm at work) and pick up the kids without my knowledge. We've always had power struggles since the birth of my first child. Mother-in-law would teach my kids to call me by my first name and call her mommy, we always had dispute about parenting..etc. My ex have tried talking to them but they disregard both our decisions. After three years, I'm really tired of it. My kids are confused and think that Grandma and Grandpa have rights over mommy and daddy. The kids are 10,8, and 6. Any inputs on what to do?

 

[lovepreschool]

I'd get a new caregiver for my children so ex in-laws can't find them. Also, make sure their schools AND teachers know not to release them to anyone else.

 

[Heatherrrrrrrr]

Just because you are not married to their son doesn't mean they love their grandchildren any less. You need to find a way to set boundaries with them. My first suggestion would be to have your father not open the door for them and not allow them to take your kids away ever. They need to discuss that with you. We have our son at an in home day care. She will not even open the door during the day and she will not give your child to anyone not approved to pick up. You may want to think of switching to another child care provider if your dad can't handle saying no. Grandparents have no rights to visitation. You may want to contact a lawyer if they can't get themselves under control.