I asked this question before but didn't get much feedback, so here it is again. Sorry it's so long, I tried to shorten it as much as I could!
My brother and I don't get along - long story short, he abused me as a child, so no, there will be no reconciliation on that part. And now that he's all grown up and married, his wife pull his strings and "controls" everything in his life.
We lost our father last year. My "brother" was willed most of the family estate - I only got a small percentage of it. There was a mortgage on his part of it, but not on mine. The wife's been trying to find a way to force both me and my Mom to pay off the mortgage so that he doesn't have to, but hasn't been able to. His land - his mortgage. Not our responsibility.
But now suddenly I've been dragged into it. For some reason, the bank and the will are making the entire estate a whole and making me responsible for "my part" of the mortgage, even though I wasn't willed ANYTHING that was mortgaged. Either I agree to pay 10% of it, or we ALL lose our land.
My questions are these:
1. If it were you, would you pay what you shouldn't even have to pay to keep your land that was supposed to be yours free and clear? Or lose your land too for no good reason, and tell him to go screw himself?
2. If I do agree to pay, the psycho wife will be getting exactly what she wants, and she'll be smirking in my face the whole time. How should I deal with her? What kind of attitude should I adopt for this?
Now...it sucks that I have to say this, but here it is: I know I could use a different attourney but this guy's all we can afford, and he's working on trying to get me out of it. It's looking grim, though. And as far as a therapist - that's not the issue. I've mentioned the abuse so you understand the nature of my "relationship" with the brother and so you know that this isn't some little spat that can be talked out. So please, if you can't answer my question - don't waste my time!
thanks, if you've read the whole thing..
My brother and I don't get along - long story short, he abused me as a child, so no, there will be no reconciliation on that part. And now that he's all grown up and married, his wife pull his strings and "controls" everything in his life.
We lost our father last year. My "brother" was willed most of the family estate - I only got a small percentage of it. There was a mortgage on his part of it, but not on mine. The wife's been trying to find a way to force both me and my Mom to pay off the mortgage so that he doesn't have to, but hasn't been able to. His land - his mortgage. Not our responsibility.
But now suddenly I've been dragged into it. For some reason, the bank and the will are making the entire estate a whole and making me responsible for "my part" of the mortgage, even though I wasn't willed ANYTHING that was mortgaged. Either I agree to pay 10% of it, or we ALL lose our land.
My questions are these:
1. If it were you, would you pay what you shouldn't even have to pay to keep your land that was supposed to be yours free and clear? Or lose your land too for no good reason, and tell him to go screw himself?
2. If I do agree to pay, the psycho wife will be getting exactly what she wants, and she'll be smirking in my face the whole time. How should I deal with her? What kind of attitude should I adopt for this?
Now...it sucks that I have to say this, but here it is: I know I could use a different attourney but this guy's all we can afford, and he's working on trying to get me out of it. It's looking grim, though. And as far as a therapist - that's not the issue. I've mentioned the abuse so you understand the nature of my "relationship" with the brother and so you know that this isn't some little spat that can be talked out. So please, if you can't answer my question - don't waste my time!
thanks, if you've read the whole thing..