how to deal with alcoholics

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my daughter has an addiction problem. first she did drugs and got off of those and now she drinks and has pancrietitis so she could die if continues. i don't know if i should be nice or if i should tell her i'm not going to talk to her until she get's help,(tough love). she is 24 years old. she also goes to treatment once a week and tells them she is doing fine. what do i do?
 
It's hard to tell you personally how to handle this situation but have you thought about attending Alanon? I have an alcoholic family meraber and have struggled with all those questions you have. Alanon has really helped me.
 
Hi there,
I am so sorry to hear of your daughters addictions! I am a recovering addict and alcoholoc myself. I also have a father who is an alcoholic and being that I am in recovery I deal with many adidicts and alcoholics everday. Most of them are in a program and sober.

As far the relationship with your daughter goes, I have to say that when my Mom would try to deal with me whiel I was practicing in my addictions she had to learn to set her own boundries. and to stick to them. Now that I am sober and clean I realize how difficult and emorional it was for her to do so.

I think the key thing to remeraber would be to keep yourself safe. Set a boundri of how much you are willing to deal with. Sticking to that is the part that is difficult and takes work. If this means you need to let your daughter go for whiel only you can be the one to answer this question. My mother learned the hard way and she did some enableing with me and at a certain point she wised up and stopped doing this! It would only cause her and I harm when it was done.

I will say a prayer for the both of you. And as another suggested...al-anon is a wonderful place to go to seek support from other men and women who have already experienced these things.
Please forgive my tyoing as I just had neck surgery a few days agao and it is hard to see every word I type.

Hang in there and best of luck!
Chrissy
 
Hi
Sorry to hear about your situation
what you have no control over leave be
try to see beyond the problem there is a lovely young girl in there struggling
tell her you love her but dont like what her drinking is doing
and ask GOD to help her.
Seek out an alanon meeting in your area its a great help
it helped me


God bless you and your Daughter
 
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