How to build up my life?

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I live in a city where I only really know my partner. I think I know why I've been getting so depressed and anxious. I think I worry about my job because I know if I lost it, I'd be left with nothing. Because I hardly know other people or have any hobbies or family here.

It has taken me ages to figure out why I am so erratic and sad since being here. I want to repair my life. What should I do?
I feel like figuring out why I have been plagued by this endless 'free-floating' anxiety is a weight off my shoulders. I am assigning too much meaning to things because it's all I have to cling to. Maybe my meds have just kicked in?!
 
Well, look at what you do have and make the best of it. Surround yourself with people and things that will lift you up.
 
You don't have any secuirty. You need to save money, just have enough for a comfort zone. A woman should always have 3000 that no one else knows abut just in case you need to make a change, or have to find another job, need to find a new roommate. You have to depend on yourself. As you are building up your savings, you need to meet other people. Invite someone to a movie if it happens to come up you both want to see that. Or in my case hey its wed half price pitchers of margaritas at my fav restaurant want to go?
 
Go out to clubs, if u live in a city, try to do community related things, if you have only your partner, why not ask to be introduced of their friends or something. Try to make lunch sometimes with co workers at work, be friendly. Its hard to do when your mind is set to be sad, I know I'm the same way very pessimist like but if u show a nice smile, and try to be you, it could work. Hope this helped.
 
Why not move (back) to where you are comfortable. Or if that's not an option why not join some support groups or try volunteering. Maybe if you felt you were helping someone else out, you'd feel better. Not only that it takes your mind off yourself for awhile. You could be obsessing over this and therefore cannot find the solution. You're trying to hard to make it all good.
 
My sister was depressed for a while and she read something that said to do something new every day to help break the monotony and get her out of her funk. It helped. Try going home a new way, go to a new restaurant for lunch or dinner, etc. Or try taking a class in something that interests you. Not only will this give you something to look forward to, you might even make some friends.

Also, have you talked to your partner about this?
 
ok what you need to do is find more people, meet lots and lots of them, have fun, go to parties, dont worry too much about your job cuz when you look back at yourself in 10 years, you dont want to regret it do you? get a hobby, doesnt have to be expensive, jus think about what you like, play some sports, draw, paint, photography, building airplanes. Not everything revolves around work, so get out there, have some fun and just know that its easy to meet people and in the end, you'll have a balanced life style, working hard and playing hard:)

hope that helps
 
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