How to be more interesting (Bold, less quiet) BONUS question inside?

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iLLnana_215

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Ok so I've been noticing that lately when I'm talking to new people that I've just met or even people that I've met before, I'm really quiet and sometimes shy. I mean, I'll talk and stuff but I'm not good at coming up with jokes (I'm not funny in the first place, s no trying there) or not good at letting loose and just being fun. I always have this fear of being judged. I hate this and I know its never gonna get me anywhere in terms of friendships. I want to be able to be myself but at least start out with loosening up. I notice that when I'm quiet with new people for a while they eventually become quiet with me or just unsure of what I'd say to their suggestions so of course, they're gonna tend to hang out/talk with the other person that's more outgoing. I'm in high school now and I want to be able to make more friends and acquaintances while I'm here. I wanna be able to talk to the guys and have fun with every group and be invited to events as the year goes by. I guess I'm just still unsure of myself?
How can I loosen up, be bold, and embrace my opinions and myself?

BONUS: There was a fundraiser for my track team at tis restaurant today. But one no one's home to take me, I'm not close with anyone on my team to be able to get a ride plus none of them live by me, and three I have a paper to write and a new lesson of Algebra homework to finish. We could come whenever we want and leave whenever we want but I'm most likely not going. I originally didn't want to because I wouldn't have anyone to go with and my friend that I invited isn't able to go. I mean I know people on my team but they're older and know each other better since they're all in classes with each other so it'd be a little awkward. They'll give out free team t-shirts and raffle prizes if you go but I can't really go and I feel bad because I fell uncommitted to the team since this is supposed to inplace of us selling stuff to raise money for new equipment and what not? Do you think it's a bad idea for me not to go or is this justifiable? I know it sounds stupid, but I just hate this feeling.
Yeah, but no one's home right now and I don't have my license or car yet.
 
I'm sorry but you can't take step by step instructions on having confidence. Also, you don't need to be humorous with new ppl just kind of a little witty I guess. I mean just embrace ur self and it will fall into place. (so cliche I apologise) And as for the extra I think you should go just for a little talk to the older kids but as you mentioned before that maybe a challenge for you, but if u are really into your team go for a little. However, don't neglect ur work for a fundraiser so make sure its brief like 45 min or something. I really hope this was remotely helpful
 
I'm sorry but you can't take step by step instructions on having confidence. Also, you don't need to be humorous with new ppl just kind of a little witty I guess. I mean just embrace ur self and it will fall into place. (so cliche I apologise) And as for the extra I think you should go just for a little talk to the older kids but as you mentioned before that maybe a challenge for you, but if u are really into your team go for a little. However, don't neglect ur work for a fundraiser so make sure its brief like 45 min or something. I really hope this was remotely helpful
 
I'm sorry but you can't take step by step instructions on having confidence. Also, you don't need to be humorous with new ppl just kind of a little witty I guess. I mean just embrace ur self and it will fall into place. (so cliche I apologise) And as for the extra I think you should go just for a little talk to the older kids but as you mentioned before that maybe a challenge for you, but if u are really into your team go for a little. However, don't neglect ur work for a fundraiser so make sure its brief like 45 min or something. I really hope this was remotely helpful
 
Omg, I have this same problem and new people getting quiet around me--it's happened to me too!!
The thing I learned (and this was really hard for me) you should just..well..be your true self. You dont have to make jokes to get people to like you. Show people how nice you are and they will respect you for that. Start convos often.
 
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