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Give yourself all the time you need. It hard to know how to feel when stuff like that happens. Two months is hardly anytime... After all she was your mother. I can't say it will get any easier to remember it, just in time you learn to cope.

Just allow yourself time to grieve and feel. It's ok to let it hurt and allow yourself to cry. There no shame in it.

My uncle just passed away today. I am not sure how I am suppose to feel about it either. Just kind of came as a shock, i mean his health was kind of bad, but to go like he did....

*Huggles* maybe I am not in the best mood to help you with this, just wanted you to know that I don't know how I am suppose to feel either.
 
I feel for both of you ._.

Feelings are just there. You just feel what you feel. Sometimes you may not know what it is that you are feeling but it takes a lot of training to actually really influence your feelings. So you shouldn't try feeling a certain but just let it happen. If you can't feel anything right now that's also ok. It means that while you understand what has happen, your heart doesn't.

Now how are you supposed to feel ? That's kind of the moral approach telling you you have to feel bad or sad or whatever it is nowdays society finds acurate. Personally I wouldn't want this to matter much, but every person does have a different perception of his world. So maybe this matters for you.

How should you be feeling ? Taking more of the medical way. Or in other words what would be normal in this situation? There is quite a lot of feelings that one may encouter without having to think of going insane.

All I can tell you is, that I wouldn't want to be alone. So call a good friend, some kind of relative or whoever you feel you can talk to sincere and open.
 
you should feel. that's it. and numbness, confusion, emptiness, those are feelings. you've got my sincerest sympathies, i wish there was more i could do to help. i can only suggest finding someone to talk to. a counselor, therapist, someone who you can just talk at who will keep your confidence and not tell you your wrong about your feelings.
 
It's all been said pretty much. I can say it's natural to not "feel" anything for a while too. Don't feel guilty if that's what's happening. It's a defense mechanism we possess. Eventually, when you're stronger or the shock has worn off, they will more than likely come. Just let them happen and don't try to analyze them.

I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
 
I think the body would go into shock for awhile, but no one should be able to tell you how to feel, the body will take in account how to deal with this, and you will deal with it, in your own special way, people deal with things in a whole range of different ways, It's just some are better than others, and unfortunately some people choose difficult ways for themselves to deal with it.
But whatever does happen, never think you're not feeling anything, because you will, even though it may be nothing.

I'm very sorry for your loss.
 
My Mom died of Cancer a few years back. I love my Mom and all that good stuff, but her dying left me very confused. I was luck tho cause I had a few friends that dragged me around and just let me be. They didnt do the "how do you feel" routine nor did they try to do this therapy stuff.

They just let me be.

That what maybe you need is to just BE. you'll eventually sort your thinking/feeling out. Just BE, don't analyze.
 
my mother in law did the hose in the tailpipe thing a few years back in a rest stop in deleware.. my wife was tore up but detached at the same time... took her bout a month to cry for the first time...
 
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