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Koren's Mommy
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My brother-in-law has been horrible to not only me but my husband (they are brothers) also. I have been with my husband for three years now and the first two years we were great friends with my BIL and his wife. We went to all of their family parties and BBQs. Then a year ago my husband and I were expecting our first child in a few weeks time and we were moving across the country right before the baby was born so they offered to throw our baby shower. We were so grateful and excited. Then days before the shower they decided that they didn't want to do it anymore and were threatening to cancel it. They didn't and the shower was lovely but they made it clear the entire day that they were upset that they went through with it. Then we moved and our daughter was born and they didn't call to congratulate us. In this time we were recieving awful e-mails from them stating that they hated us...really awful stuff. This was supposed to be family. I would like to say that I know why this happened but I really don't and honestly now I don't care. I KNOW I did nothing to deserve that treatment. NOw a year later after not talking, my BIL calls my husband and says he really needs him right now because he is divorcing his wife and he got a DUI so he is really depressed. My husband is now talking to him daily. My problem is that I haven't gotten an apology from my BIL and too be honest I think I deserve one if he wants to be a part of our lives. And I want to ask him why this happened in the first place. I told my husband how I feel and he told me that my BIL has no interest in apologizing to me and my husband doesn't care. My husband just says that I don't have to have anyhting to do with him so I shouldn't worry about it. This is true but we may be moving home soon so I can't avoid my BIL forever and I think it is unrealistic. What do you think is the best way to proceed with this?