I had been best friends on and off with Jake since elementary school. Feelings came and went over the years, but towards the end of Freshman year I confessed I liked him a lot. He told me he liked me too and we dated for a few weeks, before he admitted he never liked me but was hoping that he'd "learn" to like me and didn't want to hurt my feelings by rejecting me (although I never asked him out; he asked me out).
I felt betrayed and got into an argument with him and my best girlfriend, Ally, who was also friends with Jake. After about a week into summer vacation, I *thought* I had made amends with them; we apologized, talked on the phone and in person, and I resumed texting them like before.
Soon enough, I found that Ally, Jake, and Jillian, another close mutual friend, were ignoring my texts and had no interest of hanging out with me. I didn't hear from them the whole summer and once school started last week, I made some small talk with Ally which eventually lead to full-out explanation.
She told me that Jake was still hung up over the break up, and was making me the bad guy by finding every fault of mine and basically talking crap about me to Ally, Jillian, and my whole "old" group of friends. Most of what he said was irrelevant to our break up, and as I said before, I thought everyone was past it by then.
Ally and Jill came clean and apologized, telling me how awful they felt for ignoring me the whole summer. I was informed that Jake was angry with them for even talking to me; he kept telling them that I would "steal" them from him and turn them against him if I started hanging out with Jillian and Ally again.
I told Ally that I will have a hard time trusting her, but because she's my best friend and I love her and Jill, I forgave them. However, I've made it clear that I have no intentions of making up with Jake: while I don't want to be enemies, I refuse to be his friend after this.
I'm just concerned of what will happen now that Ally and Jillian have gone against Jake's wishes and agreed to be my friends again. He will surely become angry and see that I "turned" them against him, even though that was never my intention.
Also, during the time that we dated, we didn't do anything "advanced" at all. We held hands several times but we didn't so much as kiss even once.
I felt betrayed and got into an argument with him and my best girlfriend, Ally, who was also friends with Jake. After about a week into summer vacation, I *thought* I had made amends with them; we apologized, talked on the phone and in person, and I resumed texting them like before.
Soon enough, I found that Ally, Jake, and Jillian, another close mutual friend, were ignoring my texts and had no interest of hanging out with me. I didn't hear from them the whole summer and once school started last week, I made some small talk with Ally which eventually lead to full-out explanation.
She told me that Jake was still hung up over the break up, and was making me the bad guy by finding every fault of mine and basically talking crap about me to Ally, Jillian, and my whole "old" group of friends. Most of what he said was irrelevant to our break up, and as I said before, I thought everyone was past it by then.
Ally and Jill came clean and apologized, telling me how awful they felt for ignoring me the whole summer. I was informed that Jake was angry with them for even talking to me; he kept telling them that I would "steal" them from him and turn them against him if I started hanging out with Jillian and Ally again.
I told Ally that I will have a hard time trusting her, but because she's my best friend and I love her and Jill, I forgave them. However, I've made it clear that I have no intentions of making up with Jake: while I don't want to be enemies, I refuse to be his friend after this.
I'm just concerned of what will happen now that Ally and Jillian have gone against Jake's wishes and agreed to be my friends again. He will surely become angry and see that I "turned" them against him, even though that was never my intention.
Also, during the time that we dated, we didn't do anything "advanced" at all. We held hands several times but we didn't so much as kiss even once.