So they say communication is key in a relationship, but I'm wondering how much is too much? I'm NOT talking about the amount of communication such as phone calls, texts, that sort of thing. I'm talking about real communication, such as how things are going in the relationship, talking about issues, concerns, etc.
For example, it seemed my current girlfriend of a couple months has been a bit distant sexually lately, so I talked to her on the phone tonight about it, simply telling her I've felt there has been some distance, is anything going on? She told me a couple things that have been going on, nothing to do with me, and that she wants to start being more sexual again. So, after about 10 minutes of chat, my worries were over and I felt fine. Now, I used to never talk like this and just bottle everything up, but I learned that never turns out good so now I communicate (such as in the previous example) somewhat frequently if something concerns me or is gnawing on my mind.
My only question is, is it always a good thing to do so? My gf has yet to bring up an issue with me about anything, but I've brought up about 4-5 things already with her. None of them were huge deals and all were worked out fine with a brief chat, but I get the sense she is annoyed with our talks. What are other's thoughts on this? On one hand I think it's good I communicate about things instead of just bottling things up or assuming things, but on the other hand I don't want to over analyze or talk about our relationship. Feedback please.
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the last line was supposed to read "I don't want to over-analyze or over-talk our relationship.
For example, it seemed my current girlfriend of a couple months has been a bit distant sexually lately, so I talked to her on the phone tonight about it, simply telling her I've felt there has been some distance, is anything going on? She told me a couple things that have been going on, nothing to do with me, and that she wants to start being more sexual again. So, after about 10 minutes of chat, my worries were over and I felt fine. Now, I used to never talk like this and just bottle everything up, but I learned that never turns out good so now I communicate (such as in the previous example) somewhat frequently if something concerns me or is gnawing on my mind.
My only question is, is it always a good thing to do so? My gf has yet to bring up an issue with me about anything, but I've brought up about 4-5 things already with her. None of them were huge deals and all were worked out fine with a brief chat, but I get the sense she is annoyed with our talks. What are other's thoughts on this? On one hand I think it's good I communicate about things instead of just bottling things up or assuming things, but on the other hand I don't want to over analyze or talk about our relationship. Feedback please.
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the last line was supposed to read "I don't want to over-analyze or over-talk our relationship.