How many times a week or month do you & your husband fight or debate about lil...

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...something? I just want to know bec. as far as we are concerned ..we fight almost once or sometimes twice a week and then we have a little debate in between those weeks. It's really stressful and I always feel unhappy and how I wish I can just go out of this marriage and be free. We've been married for 9 yrs. and we have one child.He's tanky,irritable and I'm the same way too. Plus we don't sleep together bec. he's sleeping on the other bed and our baby in between us. The last time we had sex was the time we made our baby and thats 1 yr. and 7 weeks ago.
Wtf is this marriage..If I have only known that marriage is like this I wont get married.
I ask some of my married friends about how many times they quarrel and some of them rarely fight and my other friend almost do not fight at all. How about you guys, how many times a week do u fight ? Thanks for the response.
I'm so stressed right now ! I'm only 33 but I feel like I would die soon bec. I'm losing my temper when I'm fighting with him. Is there anyone in the same situation like what I have right now ?
thank you very much for all the replies. You are all so helpful. thanks a lot esp. to the first 4 response that I received. you are heaven sent.
I somehow feel okay after reading your responses.I wish I can pick 4 of you but i can only choose one.thanks again.
 
many times
Only thing is We dont fight on each other. we fight only on few topics.
i dont blame her,but her thought.All men or all women are not always right
.be like a stone when the fight starts.when ur wife scolds at you dont respond,just think some fight is going outside ur house
PROBLEM SOLVED
 
many times
Only thing is We dont fight on each other. we fight only on few topics.
i dont blame her,but her thought.All men or all women are not always right
.be like a stone when the fight starts.when ur wife scolds at you dont respond,just think some fight is going outside ur house
PROBLEM SOLVED
 
We rarely have blow out fights. Maybe once a month or less. It will usually be me over-reacting to his under-reacting. I am trying to remember to breathe deeply and choose my battles more carefully, as I realized I may end up like Kate Gosselin, yelling at my husband all of the time until one day he divorces me. We are having our issues now, and generally we bicker for about 5 minuytes a day and either not making dinner quickly enough, not putting dishes away etc. etc.

I agree with PP said - learn to pick your battles. Breathe deeply, and if you feel yourself getting stressed out by him leave the room for a bit. Go take a bath or go for a walk alone until you calm down, cool off and can rationally talk about it.

PS - I had to add this don't listen to what cutek said. Its perfectly natural and fine to let your baby sleep with you.
 
first your baby shouldn't be sleeping in between the two of you-you need to put him in his own room-he's old enough. my little niece is about the same age and she sleeps downstairs and the parents upstairs. I generally argue about once a week or so with my guy too-it's normal to have debates-but if it's making your life miserable then you two should seek counseling. try to figure out what you're fighting about and sit down and talk about it and try to correct it for the next time. also try getting a babysitter at least once a week and put together a "date" night-like go out to dinner or picnic-or just spend some good quality time together-no drinking-not sure if you do, but that's mostly why my guy & i argue. if you just can't make it work then maybe it's time to get out of the situation-it's your life too & you deserve to be happy!
 
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