How long were you able to post pone having sex with your husband?

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My beautiful daughter Brynneleigh-Kadince was born 2 weeks ago, so I know I have 6-8 weeks before sex is even an option. But, personally, I'd prefer to avoid sex with my husband for at least one year. Did anyone have any kind of complication with their delivery that I could tell him I have so that he doesn't complain? How long were you able to pull that off?
 
WOW, a year is a long time. I don't agree with lying to him. You should be truth full to him. That is what marriage is all about. One post said that her husband was piratically waiting at the door after her six week check up. LOL. Mine was too. I was ready as well. It sounds like you have another issue going on with your husband that you need to address. Sex is a healthy part of marriage. You two have some talking to do. Be honest with him.
 
Okay, after tearing in all kinds of directions....I was saying exactly what you are saying at 2 weeks. Trust me, you'll feel better about it as you heal up and adjust to your new life/schedule with your baby.

That said, I wasn't ready until about 10 weeks pp. Doc gave the okay at the 6 week check up...but I was still in pain. Talk openly with your husband (don't lie!) My husband completely understood how I felt and was really willing to make sure I was comfortable and that it was an enjoyable experience.
 
OH my gosh--I had a complicated delivery and C-Section and I could not WAIT to have sex again...I say you need to talk to your doctor if you are having some pain that makes you not want to have sex...but it sounds like there are other issues if you are wanting to post-pone sex for at least a year.

I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your husband, but sex should be a normal, healthy part of that...perhaps you both need some counseling, either individual or couples therapy...I hope this child was not an attempt to save a troubled marriage.

Best of luck to you!
 
aw i know exactly how you feel!
after my daughter was born i totally went off sex and told my boyfriend so.

she is now 1 and we have probably had sex a grand total of 5 times and most of which after a drink.

you should talk to your husband and tell him you don't feel like having sex anytime soon and you want to give your body time to recover and adjust after the baby, then when you feel ready to again you will let him know, so he doesn't pester you. you never know, he may be far more understanding than you think, but if sex is off the cards make sure the kisses and cuddles make up for it, men need to feel wanted still.
 
i was able to pull that off by my 6 weeks even still it was uncomfortable to me but my doc siad it was more then fine since eveyrthign had healed but after trying after those 6 week si decided to give it 2 more weeks so that i woudl feel better in doing it BUT i did satisfy him in other ways
 
Sounds like there's an underlying issue you need to face, rather than coming up with lies to tell your husband.
 
First off lying to your husband is wrong...2nd if he was smart he would look up anything that you stated was wrong and know that posponing sex for a year was not a stipulation....3rd...most likely he was there for the delivery or spoke to the doctors about your delivery and therefore knows you had no complications...

Maybe you need to find out the real reason you dont want to sleep with ur husband....Lying wont get you anywhere but in a hole that you will have to constantly dig yourself out of!
 
aw i know exactly how you feel!
after my daughter was born i totally went off sex and told my boyfriend so.

she is now 1 and we have probably had sex a grand total of 5 times and most of which after a drink.

you should talk to your husband and tell him you don't feel like having sex anytime soon and you want to give your body time to recover and adjust after the baby, then when you feel ready to again you will let him know, so he doesn't pester you. you never know, he may be far more understanding than you think, but if sex is off the cards make sure the kisses and cuddles make up for it, men need to feel wanted still.
 
I love your babby's name, by the way.

tell your husband his penish is too small for you to feel any sort of pleasure after you vaginally birthed his babby. tell him you want a penish the size of a babby. his feelings will be so hurt that he definitely won't want to have sexkcs with you! problem solved! you're welcome.
 
Just tell him, for the next 12 months, that your va-jay-jay has an owie and satisfy him with a lot of head.
 
Haha, my husband was practically waiting at the door after my 6 week appt! So not very long. Why do you have to wait a year to have sex? Sounds like you might stir up some issues in your marriage by doing that hun.
 
OUCH!! 1 year is brutal!!

There must be something else going on with you and hubby...why would you want to deprive him (AND yourself) for that long?

That's just crazy!!
 
Well I would tell him to go find himself a mistress becasue that is the only way he is going to get laid. Are you kidding me!!!!! What kind of wife says thay don't want to have sex with their husband for a year? You seem to be a little confused here. Sex is an important part of a good marriage. You seem very selfish and when your husband does have an affair you better not act all surprised and confused as to why he would stray.
 
Hm, 2 weeks is the longest I've waited for all 3 of my pregnancies. We only waited a week after our third. The pain isn't THAT bad that you should want to avoid sex for a year!
 
Why do you want to wait that long? I didn't wait the "required" 6-8 wks either time but I don't endorse doing it before then either. Are you afraid of it hurting?
 
why wouldn't you want to have sex with yous husband for a year? You know this is the reason men cheat, because there wives don't give them any. Not saying that your husband will cheat, but what kind of realationship do you expect to have with him without sex, and with lying to him about sex, you not a very good wife, i really hope your a better mother. If you don't want to be with him divorce him before your baby understands whats going on. And after birth you can start having sex at 4-6 weeks not 8=10 weeks.
 
Why do you want to wait that long? I didn't wait the "required" 6-8 wks either time but I don't endorse doing it before then either. Are you afraid of it hurting?
 
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