How long did it take you to return to normal sexually?

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OK... My daughter is almost 8 weeks. I have been cleared by my mid-wife that "everything" is back to normal. I have lost almost all of the weight I gained during pregnancy and I am just starting to exercise again. my question is.... How long did it take you to become interested in sex again? I feel connected to my husband and we are closer than ever right now. I just cant even begin to get in the mood or feel sexy. I feel so sory for him and I must say he is being a trooper about the whole thing. I thought once I really started excerising and lost more weight that it would help...it hasnt.How long did it take you? Or am I just being weird??
 
You're not being weird at all! My daughter is 5 months old, and I think for just the last few weeks I have been more into it. I don't think any where near like I was before, but definitely a lot more than right after I had her!
 
Well i think we all ask the same question. I know i am My babies r 7m/o and honestly we r lucky to have sex once a wk sad i know but between the new body, and being tired all the time it's hard in the first year. U will get there again we all will i promise just take the time and effort and everything will be ok.
 
We broke the rules and had sex after two weeks. I will say after that, I was so blasted tired that it was another 4 months before I had enough sleep to even think about it. The worst thing right now is the fatigue. Once baby starts sleeping again, it will be 100% better!
 
You aren't weird at all!! I have had four kids and no matter how hard you try, your body is not going to be exactly the same. I don't mean physically in a sense, but sometimes it takes up to two years for your "insides" to completely heal. My husband and I have talks about this all the time because I'll tell him that I love him and it's not him, but my body just does not respond. A lot of it is due to emotional state, the amount of hormones being produced, your body parts may have lost some of their "sensativity" or all of the above. I have not picked out an exact reason, but i've been fighting this for 6 years. Don't let that scare you because everyone is different. For women, sex is mostly emotional especially if you are in love. If I felt rushed or pressured to hurry or have a "quicky" I couldn't no matter how hard I tried because my body was not relaxed and my mind had other things in it like "children". This doesn't mean that your sex life is over, it just means you have to be patient and don't push yourself and you might even bounce back in a few weeks. You just had a baby and that is mentally draining. Your age plays a factor in there too. Your hormone levels are changing all the time.To be honest with you, I really didn't have all the above problems until my last couple of babies. To make a long story longer....you aren't weird and just be patient! ;)
 
my baby is a month old and I gotten the ok yet and no way in hell will I have sex unless I get on the pill. So I'm waiting till my 6 week check up that is next week. I feel in my head I want to have sex yet at the same time I'm unsure it's weird. I'm kind of afraid to. I pushed an 8 lb baby out of there and had ti be stitched up. I know how you feel.
 
You are not weird. between sleep deprivation and breastfeeding (if you are) then it will take a while...probably until your hormones start cycling and you get your period. That differs for everyone. Some women start their period after 3 months, some after a year or more. You can have great sex and not necessarily be "in the mood" until you have had extensive foreplay or get your juices going. If you feel good about your hubby, then have sex because you love him, not just cuz you do or don't feel sexy. That will come....
 
one day before my daughter turned 1 month.... hey i was in tha mood... and so was my hubby ;)
 
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