This has turned out to be one of the best threads in some time, especially due to Jim's and junglemike's contributions . . . but I just have a couple of thoughts if I may . . . .
Simply and politely as I can put it . . . there are thousands of "power users," myself included -- that live by the thing . . . and we're okay with it.
I think your wife will do just fine and by now you've had (I'm sure) a chance to evaluate the T3 and its battery. Jim's idea of external power charger or a SLED is great, and if your wife doesn't want the extra bulk I think she'll be okay. I can run mine, sporadically but often, for 2 days without charging - it's not like you're jump-starting a mack truck with it.
Between j/m's mods, your own tweaks and a CIGARETTE LIGHTER charger, I don't think this will be an insurmountable issue for you. I hope I'm right and that you're both happy with it.
I say this only because I, perhaps like you, tend to "worry over the fine points;" bottom line is you've got a GREAT handheld, and with two extra chargers and a 512MB Card - you're set, my friend!! Enjoy it and don't fret the battery thing - with a cradle reset and a couple of cycles I'm willing to bet it's 95% perfect, and might have been in worse condition if it wasn't kept charged and left in a hot car for weeks on end, and dropped, or abused . . . etc etc. I may be in the minority, but my T3 is now 18 months old (yikes!) and believe me it's been charged, purged, hard reset, JackSpratted, reflashed, jump started and hogtied . . . and I've seen no erosion in full cycle battery life.
Hope this allays your fears and doesn't offend you - I just want you & your wife to enjoy what TO ME AT LEAST is the best PDA available!! Otherwise, if it's still bothering you to the point of NOT enjoying it - simply tell the guy you're not interested. Personally, I'd not only keep it - I'd be actively looking for another one in similar shape as a spare. As a matter of fact, I am . . . .