how is it being an army wife?

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my boyfriend is leaving to boot camp this year to be in the army. we are getting married after i graduate next year. how is it living on base?
 
I'm not a army wife but I am a navy wife and proud of it. I have been married less than a year, my husband went to boot camp in february and has been at A school since april and will be graduating in July when I will be moving down to his base. Its really hard, anyone who says it isn't is lying. People will try to scare you will the stupid statistic that 80% or more of military marriages fail, any marriage will fail if you let it. You just can't focus on him always being gone, but know that he is going to be gone a lot. When you are together, take advantage of it and cherish it. Be willing to move anywhere you can accompany him. Always be faithful, if you can't, you shouldn't get married. Always always be there for him, you will become his biggest supporter and knowing you would do anything for him and are always there will help him through a lot. And remember, he misses you just as much as you miss him. I haven't lived on a base yet but I have visited a couple times..the commissary is nice, the medical is nice to have because its way cheap. Really you just have to be a strong woman and realize that he is going to get deployed, the military really won't plan around your anniversary or anything like that, you will spend a lot of time apart and it will suck. But you also have to realize, you will get either base housing or extra money for rent (the amount depends on the area code and cost of living there), you will get health insurance for way cheap, there always people you can talk to if something comes up and he is gone, he will have a job for however long he signs up for, and that as long as you love him and only him, you will be just fine. Just stay strong, if you can't do that, don't get married. The key to a successful military marriage is a woman as strong and faithful as her soldier or in my case, sailor.
 
There is an 80% divorce rate among Army/ Marines.. Mostly due to the many deployments. Also you will want to know the meaning of "What goes TDY stays TDY."
 
Most military wives are about the same. You Boyfriend/husband needs to have PCS orders before he can qualify for housing. Living on base is usually nice and with no children you will get a one or two bedroom And the newer units usually have washer and dryer hookups. The down side of housing is that you are expected to keep your unit inside and outside clean. Some units do not allowed animals or just small pets. The thing about housing, I didn't like is that there are a lot of nosy neighbors. They may know you wear abouts all the time. So be careful.
When you live on base most facilities are near you. Exception might be the hospital. Many individuals don't use the commissary. But I go regularly. Everything is much cheaper They do take coupons. Just plan not going on paydays.If your husband's command has a wives club than participate in the functions. It will take you a few weeks until you get orientated. Keep busy. I was never one of those woman who started my morning with coffee groups. I have worked and gone to school most of his military career. Be careful who you talk to you because sometimes it will get back to your husband's boss. But have fun!
 
I was a marine wife and I stress WAS... Its not all fun and games like you see on TV. If you live on base there are pros an cons... pros you get to be closer to things that the unit puts on, closer to friends safety cons... well there are just some people who have nothing better to do then get into your business and make it their priority.. I suggest you work even if it is part time to stay away from the drama.. get involved with the community and your church... HAVE A STRONG relationship and I mean it.. my ex and I were married he left for Iraq when he came home we had orders for Hawaii... yea hawaii great it was amazing but he ended up stepping outside of our marriage with another marine it happens and you need to weigh every option good and bad before taking that step. It can be a good life but it can also be lonely and misleading.
 
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