How hard was it for you to persue interests or education after your second child?

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I am going to school full time now to become a nurse. I have only completed one full semester, so I still have a good 2 years to go. I have a little boy (2 in may). I take him to hourly care during the day while I go to school. My husband comes home from Iraq in March and I want desperately to have our second baby. The reason I chose my RN associates instead of bachelors is because family is more important to me than my career, and I'll just have to finish my BSN later. I want a second child so badly, but it is going to cost double in daycare, my schedule will change every 8-16 weeks and I'm not sure if I can change my part time day care schedule. I just need a little encouraging, I also need a dose of reality, so just give it to me straight!
 
I haven't had my second child as of yet, but I want another child. I am in school for nursing as well. I just need my anatomy courses to apply for the program. When I think about wanting to have another baby a fewthings go through my head: 1. I'm ready. 2. My husband is ready 3. I personally want my kids to be close in age. I think to myself I know this may be hard to have a baby and go to school but like I said I want my son to have a sibling close in age to him. That stems from me being an only child. You can get a daycare on a sliding scale that will work with you so there are ways. I just feel like where there is a will there is a way if you want to go to school and finish you will, if you dont you won't. I know a women who has two children and still became a doctor. I'm just not going to put my life on hold.
 
Hold up there! You owe your husband some welcome-home time. Don't add to his problems of adjustment to life after combat by increasing his responsibilities. Take some time to get re-acquainted. Tell him you desperately want a second child, but let him be part of the planning of how you are going to cope with scheduling, child-care, additional costs, etc. It's time to put his needs first, so he will be able to put your needs first at a later time. You've been waiting for the time when your lives get back to normal, but you've been waiting in a more comfortable situation than he has been waiting.
 
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