John Johnson
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My wife has moved out to think about things. The problem is, she got all hung up on this guy she worked with. She opened up to him about everything at a time when she was shutting down on me. And then she was surprised to find herself develop an increasing sense of connection with him. (But this never went farther than talking, crushing, daydreaming).
To the point where she thinks she felt things with him that she has never felt before, and thinks he's a special person that "made her realize all of the things that were missing in her marriage" and it was "as if she had known him for years". Basically, she got herself thinking that there is some kind of magical connection (I don't believe that crap. I think she just finally opened up some communication, except she did it outside of the marriage). So now, she's gotten all confused about what she wants and apparently the marriage doesn't really take precedence over this magic connection that she thinks she might have.
Although she cut off communication with him, she held on to him as a Facebook friend (leaving a door open in my mind), and now she's moving out to just be alone. I think our marriage was good. It just can't compete with some romantic fantasy in her head about past life bs. But she can't seem to move on from it.
So how is she going to get over it? Obviously, if she dated the loser (seriously, he owns three shirts, he's a loser), it would come crashing down. But that would cross a line for me, even if it's during this little separation. Anything I can do?
To the point where she thinks she felt things with him that she has never felt before, and thinks he's a special person that "made her realize all of the things that were missing in her marriage" and it was "as if she had known him for years". Basically, she got herself thinking that there is some kind of magical connection (I don't believe that crap. I think she just finally opened up some communication, except she did it outside of the marriage). So now, she's gotten all confused about what she wants and apparently the marriage doesn't really take precedence over this magic connection that she thinks she might have.
Although she cut off communication with him, she held on to him as a Facebook friend (leaving a door open in my mind), and now she's moving out to just be alone. I think our marriage was good. It just can't compete with some romantic fantasy in her head about past life bs. But she can't seem to move on from it.
So how is she going to get over it? Obviously, if she dated the loser (seriously, he owns three shirts, he's a loser), it would come crashing down. But that would cross a line for me, even if it's during this little separation. Anything I can do?