How do you tell your husband bad news about fertility?

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ttccutie

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My husband had a tumor removed from his testicle almost ten years ago (before I met him). When we decided to start TTC, he told me that his doctor said he would not have any sterility problems. We've been TTC for a year now and I'll be seeing my doctor today for my yearly and to figure out what are the next steps in diagnosing our fertility problems. Well, in the mean time, I researched the surgery he had ten years ago and found out that only one of his testicles can release sperm. How do I tell my husband that his doctor lied to him and that only one of his testicles is possibly functioning correctly? I'll have to discuss this with my doctor today anyway but then I'll head home to tell him what she said. How do I break the news or do I just say nothing and wait for him sperm analysis?
 
For a start just because he has one testicle removed it doesn´t mean he has fertility problems at all it can just be like women when we only release one egg and not two and so on...
You can still conceive with one testicle, so you cannot blame him for your fertility issues, it may just take a little longer to conceive, there are many factors that can happen in early pregnancy.
Wait until you visit your doctor and see what he has to say about the issue.
I wish you all the best x
 
I also had a similar problem. My fiancee was married 10 years before we got together. They never had a pregnancy. We been trying for 2 years....no luck. I've been to the Doctor and I'm ok hormonal wise...i also had a ultrasound and etc. I believe he's the problem. I asked him and of course he was in denial. I guess he thought I was questioning his manhood. The best thing to do is to be open and honest. If he's as eager to be a father and get the ball rolling, he'll be ready to hear the news. good luck!!
 
I also had a similar problem. My fiancee was married 10 years before we got together. They never had a pregnancy. We been trying for 2 years....no luck. I've been to the Doctor and I'm ok hormonal wise...i also had a ultrasound and etc. I believe he's the problem. I asked him and of course he was in denial. I guess he thought I was questioning his manhood. The best thing to do is to be open and honest. If he's as eager to be a father and get the ball rolling, he'll be ready to hear the news. good luck!!
 
I would rather wait for the sperm analysis. There is probably enough stress in your lives at the moment, don't want to make it worse. You don't know how he might react. Good luck!
 
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