how do you stop a little 14 year old at a Christan camp....[please help!!!]?

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Jake

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from getting homesick or wetting the bed and being scared of the dark. my daughter is going to a christain camp and she hasnt left to sepend the night since her mom died in april i dont want her to get homesick at the camp but what can i do? also she tends to get scared of the dark how can i help her in that area? and she tends to wet the bed i think her getting teased would make homesick worse but should i send her with like diapers she doesnt know what she wants she told me so what can i do to help this poor child
but whats the worse that can happen her get teased a little?or will she even
she serioucly wants to go and she said that she will run away i told her its for her good she dosnt understand i love her but just dont want to go
 
A 14 year old who is still wetting the bed has issues that can't be resolved at Y answers or by going to a Christian camp. She needs to see a psychologist.

If you do decide to send her to the camp, one thing that you can do that will really, really help the camp counselors out is NOT to say to her before you leave "Now if you get homesick you can come home or call me anytime!" I know when I was a camp counselor the other counselors and I HATED it when parents told their kids that because it was an absolute guarentee that we would end up having to deal with about 10 or so homesick kids that night. When you say that to a kid they basically hear "You WILL get homesick" and it just snowballs. Also write letters to her everyday.

But seriously do, don't send her. Send her to counseling, not camp.
 
Keep her at home

Your child is obviously psychologically unstable. She is still scared of the dark and bed-wetting. Massive insecurity issues are likely to be at the heart of this - and sending her away will make it worse. She's already lost the greatest anchor in her life - she's not ready for this and her subconscious is repeatedly telling you this.

You need a child psychologist, not Yahoo! Answers

There's still a lot of healing to do
 
If you are that concerned then bring your daughter to a doctor, besides if she is that unstable then she needs to stay at home, she would not be well enough to cope at camp. Also if she is caught wetting the bed at 14 she will end up being teased or bullied, not just at camp but for a long time after.

By the sounds of it she need more time to grieve, you should really bring her to see a doctor and a counsellor as soon as possible.
 
Not sure what you have locally - but here in Oz there are a older child disposal "nappy"/Panty that's suitable for these situations. They look like panties with extra padding when needed. IF anyone noticed it to tease her I'd suggest they have much bigger problems.

Alternatively I'd suggest the Adult incontinence pads - very much like a Menstruation Pads (pardon anyone embarrassed by this) but designed for urine.

The issue then would be the discrete disposal - but if the camp has older children then I'd suggest either packing a packet of brown paper bags or have her look for Pad disposal bins usually found in Female toilets.

Hope that's a hand.


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I am not clear. Does or does not your daughter want to go? In one sentence it does, in one sentence it doesn't

A 14-year old girl who wets the bed is going to be teased immercifully. It isn't as if she is 8 or 9 and going through growth spurts. Teenagers, Christian or not, can be very, very cruel.

She doesn't need Christian camp, she needs some serious counseling. Death of a parent is always hard, but a teenage girl who is afraid of the dark and wets the bed has issues that need to be dealt with by a trained professional.
 
No wonder this child is unhappy. You are trying to force her to go to one of those awful xian camps just because you think "it is for her good". In my view it is child abuse and you should be ashamed of yourself.
 
I know it must be awfully hard for the both of you and I am sure she is scared and insecure without her mom but you have to be the parent and even though you don't want to upset her kepping her home this camp season will be better for her in the long run. You have to be the big baddy this time and I am certain many times more than this one. The most important thing for you to do is talk to God and ask for help. God bless you and your daughter.
 
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