Helloooo nurse
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I never grew up "rich; however my parents taught us manners and courtesy for others, but as I'm getting older, I find that not many people have this. At parties, I get judged bc I'm "different". I'm a nice person, approachable, and most importantly I'm respectful and nice to others. I don't wear expensive things but I do carry myself w. this certain pose and I am reserved here there (esp. if I don't know you too well). This acquaintance's new boyfriend (i don't know if he was socially awkward or just weird) but came up to me and said, "why are you so quiet?" almost defensive. You don't know how caught off guard and upset I was with that. FIrst off, I'm always the one to say "hi" to him and start small talk here and there but he can't even hold a decent conversation. Second, if he wants to talk to me so much, why doesn't he make an effort? I don't want to go out of my way, and fake it for someone I've just met and know am not "vibing" with. Also, I have this friend (who I may have to distance myself a bit) who's parties are very "high school". She's nearly 30 and everytime she has a get-together, it ends up being "truth or dare: the sex edition" - "i dare you to give so and so a lap dance" or "truth: who's the last person you slept with". SORRY to be a prude but seriously?! I wanna be a good sport so I've gone with in the past but now it's just so tacky, trashy, and not comfortable, esp. with "new friends" her and her husband invite... i don't mind playing w. a intimate group of close friends but strangers? No. Also, I feel like it's a waste of time being there sometimes; I'm tired after long days of work, studying, clinical hours. She has these get-togethers (every weekend) but gets super offended if I don't have a "good enough" reason for me to go. If i'm not working or not on a date I should go bc i am "single". It's frustrating.... sometimes, I want "me" time or would rather be somewhere else...
I'm also prude in which i don't want to talk about money AT ALL. I see no need for it. I have a colleague ask me how much my eyebrow waxings are (at a salon i go to). I gave her a range and she kept pushing for it so i said, "$22". "OMG. You spend that much?! So expensive!" And here I am, sitting looking like a fool bc I spend "so much" on something on my personal choosing. I also like designer bags but most of them are 2nd hand or vintage - i clean them up nicely. I don't use it all the time but when I do, people are "shocked" and will start judging me w. my income and how I can get a bag like that, etc... so uncomfortable. I downplay it as much as I can but... it's hard...
Thoughts on all this? The dude, my friend and her get-togethers, money topics...?
I'm also prude in which i don't want to talk about money AT ALL. I see no need for it. I have a colleague ask me how much my eyebrow waxings are (at a salon i go to). I gave her a range and she kept pushing for it so i said, "$22". "OMG. You spend that much?! So expensive!" And here I am, sitting looking like a fool bc I spend "so much" on something on my personal choosing. I also like designer bags but most of them are 2nd hand or vintage - i clean them up nicely. I don't use it all the time but when I do, people are "shocked" and will start judging me w. my income and how I can get a bag like that, etc... so uncomfortable. I downplay it as much as I can but... it's hard...
Thoughts on all this? The dude, my friend and her get-togethers, money topics...?