How do you deal with your mother in law's insensitive comments?

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Well, we visited my mother in law 2 years ago. (We have been married for almost 4 years now and my husband has been divorced from his first marriage for 8 years). My mother in law has his picture with his ex-wife together still in the living room which made me somewhat uncomfortable. I had to ignored it since it is not my house and she is entitled to do whatever she wants, but this year at dinner table. She insisted on sharing this photo/scrap book project she is doing about my husband which also include his ex wife. My husband kindly told her, how about you skip that part (since I am right next to him). She decided to ask him in front of me.."Is is THAT bad?" Helloooooooooooooooooooooooo, is there someone out there that wants to be divorced from a GOOD marriage? I feel she is pushing that boundary line that I hesitated to draw clear out of respect. But it seems to me it is going WAY TOO FAR.
 
Don't pay attention to what the woman is doing. If she knows that it bothers you then she will do whatever it takes to make you upset. Ignore the woman and act like you don't care.
 
I wouldn't ignore anything! If it bothers you, say something! Stick up for yourself!
 
She's being very insensitive. Just keep your mouth shut and remind yourself that you are being a bigger person by doing that. Just try to respond, and not react. At least your husband is sensitive to the fact that you're sitting there.
 
Ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't let her see how affected you are. In time she will tire off.
 
I think your feelings are right! I think she is doing it on purpose to push your buttons. She is probably jealous because your husband is siding with you against her or what she wants to do. The sad thing is that if you were the ex wife and the ex was the second wife, she would be throwing you in her face. Ignore it! don't let her rent space in your brain, she is not worth your time. Love your husband and keep your marriage strong and that will aggravate her more than she could ever aggravate you! Good Luck!
 
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