My boyfriend is one of the friendliest, outgoing people. He's friends w. everyone n he the "go-to" guy. He is, however, a "shy guy" and has that mentality when it comes to love and relationships. Compared to the average guy, he takes rejection very badly, is sensitive, overthinks/analyzes the tiny things (at times), and is just an overall nice guy, girls take for granted.
I'm genuinely a good girl and I really respect, admire, and appreciate the guy he is...and in most ways, I do understand him very well. I was someone who held out on sex and JUST lost my v-card, to him (and i'm nearing my mid 20's.) It was by choice and sometimes girls just "know". It took us a month to talk about being intimate and when I told him i was one, he was more than respectful it and did not give me any pressure. To this day, I don't regret it. It's been about a month since we were intimate and last night, (when the housemates left) we had the house to ourselves. He does satisfy me in many ways (and i love it) and when i was really feelin it, I suggested we made love and...he turned me down. I felt so rejected and horrible - what kind of guy would turn down sex? He claimed he was being respectful and nice. We talked about it and after understanding where he was comin from he said he wants to take it slow w. us and as a couple...not ready. I've known him since december and we've only been "official" for 2 months (seems longer though and i always felt comfortable and natural w him). He said he wants to be able to "really connect" and doesn't just wanna do it b/c "it feels good" and he said we haven't talked about it and that's something we need to do. I felt a bit offended and asked if it was me and that wasn't it - he said he still thinks i'm "sexy" and i have a "sexy a$$ body and a more than perfect booty" lol he just said he wants to wait longer, through time, connection...blah blah blah. He said not to think of the future and it'll happen when it happens and he apologized for being "such a girl" but he did say he's "different". And for someone who's also in his mid20's he's only slept w. 3 girls in his life (all were his exes)...I probably sound like a slut for wanting it so much and I understand where he's coming from...but I can't help but feel a bit rejected still...
thoughts?
And he kept saying, "it's okay. we can wait..."
OH! and he said it never bothered him at all that i was a virgin and he always thinks about being careful in the back of his head bc he doesn't wanna ruin any experience for me...
I'm genuinely a good girl and I really respect, admire, and appreciate the guy he is...and in most ways, I do understand him very well. I was someone who held out on sex and JUST lost my v-card, to him (and i'm nearing my mid 20's.) It was by choice and sometimes girls just "know". It took us a month to talk about being intimate and when I told him i was one, he was more than respectful it and did not give me any pressure. To this day, I don't regret it. It's been about a month since we were intimate and last night, (when the housemates left) we had the house to ourselves. He does satisfy me in many ways (and i love it) and when i was really feelin it, I suggested we made love and...he turned me down. I felt so rejected and horrible - what kind of guy would turn down sex? He claimed he was being respectful and nice. We talked about it and after understanding where he was comin from he said he wants to take it slow w. us and as a couple...not ready. I've known him since december and we've only been "official" for 2 months (seems longer though and i always felt comfortable and natural w him). He said he wants to be able to "really connect" and doesn't just wanna do it b/c "it feels good" and he said we haven't talked about it and that's something we need to do. I felt a bit offended and asked if it was me and that wasn't it - he said he still thinks i'm "sexy" and i have a "sexy a$$ body and a more than perfect booty" lol he just said he wants to wait longer, through time, connection...blah blah blah. He said not to think of the future and it'll happen when it happens and he apologized for being "such a girl" but he did say he's "different". And for someone who's also in his mid20's he's only slept w. 3 girls in his life (all were his exes)...I probably sound like a slut for wanting it so much and I understand where he's coming from...but I can't help but feel a bit rejected still...
thoughts?
And he kept saying, "it's okay. we can wait..."
OH! and he said it never bothered him at all that i was a virgin and he always thinks about being careful in the back of his head bc he doesn't wanna ruin any experience for me...