How do istop whining/other problems cuz he makes me feel like goin2 prison just2 beat

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the hell out of him once? Here's the thing, we try everything 2 get him 2 stop whining/ talking in a baby voice but nothing seems 2 work. He does it more when he gets attention!!

I know alot of people say 2 let him know u r not gonna talk 2 him when he is whining n then ignore his behavior which if it was just me would be fine but he gets in this phase where he will sit n bounce while chanting a phrase over n OVER such as, "i wanna ask my mom something" and if i give in & ask what his question is it will most likely be asking "if i be quiet can i come out?" which prior i have told him 10times in a row when u are being quiet & all settled down i will come in here and tell u that u can come out of your room.. so hes bouncing & chanting which is hard 2 ignore in itself but after a few minutes his older brother who becomes easily annoyed with him will start whinying/screaming will u tell him 2 shut up hes giving me a headache so i got one bouncing back n forth chanting almost looking like he should be in a straight jacket with rubber walls if u know what i mean while the other one is attempting to scream over him asking me to make him shut up...or yelling @ him 2 shut up

its like he gets in this phase where he is stuck & doesnt hear anything u are saying.

or his brother will antagonize him by saying god u cry more then a baby! dylan(the youngest brother who just turned 2) doesnt even cry as much a u which will lead 2 him repeadily saying Alysha, I'm not a Baby...I'm not a baby...he said i was a baby...no matter what u say he just repeats it till i get so frustrated i had 2 make a rule if he repeated the same thing to me more then 2 times after i have acknowledged whatever he said he would be grounded for the day...

i thought he was needing more attention but it has got to where we can be watching tv together and everything is peaceful no whining or talking in a baby like voice and a comercial will come on and i'll try talking to him about whatever show we r watching n a few questions in he will just start up almost making me regret trying to talk to him

another example is he had come in from playing out side and asked if he could have some chips cuz he saw the baby eating some so i told him yeah put your bike up n then u can get a handful cuz the pizza should be here anytime now so he goes n puts his bike up walks back in says can i have chips in the baby voice pointing @ bag and i say did u put your bike up? he says yeah so i tell him well if your bikes put up i told u that u can get a handful..so He will stick his hand in the bag a pull out 1 chip eat it and will look at me and in the whiny voice say, "how come i can only have one chip"

or a shorter version he will ask 4 something 2 drink ill say yeah & hell say how come u wont let me have anything to drink

or i was late cooking dinner & kids were getting hungry so trying to think of something quick i decide mac n cheese with tuna well i throw the noodles into the water n rush 2 get all the crayons picked up b4 the 2yr old colors the wall i go back start 2 drain them & realize the box had meal worms in it...kids r getting cranky and hes starting to get whiny im trying to find a new meal plan so i get a new dinner going n the oldest one wanted 2 see what the meal worm looked like so they r gathered around the fork looking at it n i jokingly dare the oldest 2 eat it thinking it would amuse them or get there mind off of being hungry for a lil bit while the food was cooking he giggles says eww no so i point the fork towards marcus "the whiny child" who is clear across the room and tell him here try this & tell me what it tastes like in the same jokingly manner and all the way till bedtime i had to hear about how i was trying to force feed him a meal worm after telling him SEVERAL time i was just joking around with u if i was trying to force feed him i would have been next time him trying to pry his mouth open or shoving the meal worm in his mouth i was clear across the room and for the next 3 days everytime dinner was done i had 2 hear why did u try to make me eat a meal worm till i had to tell him if he meantioned the word mealworm again or anything about trying 2 make him eat it he would be going to bed as soon as he was done eating

or our arms will brush by each other in the hall or your foot might touch his leg as u get off the couch cuz hes laying on the floor and he will start whining OUCH!!! WHY DID U HIT ME!!! or OUCH!! WHY DID U KICK ME!!!
First of All I would never beat the hell out of him it is just a term 2 show how stressed he gets me and I don't appreciate u calling me a bad parent when it seems if I was a bad parent u wouldnt see me sitting here asking 4 help he is 8yrs old. yeah i have tried going 2 the library to find books on behavior problems down to help books on what parents are doing to cause this, watching the nanny 911 show hoping 4 a scenario like mine, also Tried Easychild Encouragement system a computer software that is suppose to be a positive reinforcement program instead of punishing.. And as far as the mealworm thing I asked his older brother first then asked him so it wasnt just him I said it to...and I WAS KIDDING with them and yes I love him very much that is why I am here asking 4 help or ideas
 
maybe you can repost this in english. someone should call the police on you if you want to beat the hell out of a child.
 
I think that he is just looking for attention. My guess is that subconsciously you are treating the baby differently than him and he wants you to treat him like that. No matter how big a child gets he still wants somebody to talk in soothing tones to them. Is this your son? I saw that he calls you by your first name. Maybe that has something to do with it. I would also say that positive reinforcement is the best method. I would tell him that for every time he talks like a big boy he will get a penny. When the jar is full of pennies then he can take down to a coin star machine and get cash for whatever he wants to buy, then go get the BIGGEST jar you can find maybe even empty some pennies out at night into a separate jar (so that they are still his pennies). If you make this a big deal he'll want to keep going. Hopefully it will become a habit to talk normally. Maybe even take pennies away if he talks like a baby. Don't even give him a warning after he's been told how it works. Make him take it out himself and give it to you. That way it's more real. These are just some things I would think about, I hope they help though
 
I think that he is just looking for attention. My guess is that subconsciously you are treating the baby differently than him and he wants you to treat him like that. No matter how big a child gets he still wants somebody to talk in soothing tones to them. Is this your son? I saw that he calls you by your first name. Maybe that has something to do with it. I would also say that positive reinforcement is the best method. I would tell him that for every time he talks like a big boy he will get a penny. When the jar is full of pennies then he can take down to a coin star machine and get cash for whatever he wants to buy, then go get the BIGGEST jar you can find maybe even empty some pennies out at night into a separate jar (so that they are still his pennies). If you make this a big deal he'll want to keep going. Hopefully it will become a habit to talk normally. Maybe even take pennies away if he talks like a baby. Don't even give him a warning after he's been told how it works. Make him take it out himself and give it to you. That way it's more real. These are just some things I would think about, I hope they help though
 
well first off, you dont know how to be a parent, second of all you should be turned in for saying youd like to go to prison just once so you could beat him...how bad of a parent are you? ITS CALLED BEING A PARENT AND HAVING A CHILD! ITS CALLED LEARN TO HAVE PATIENTS. Seems to me you dont like your child at all, and so you point a fork at him and not the other kids to have him eat a meal worm? Why would you want any of your kids to eat a mealworm.. you are one crazy parent...I think someone needs to come in and evaluate the way you are parenting your children, because you need help.
 
First of all, you shouldn't beat your child regardless to how pissed off you get. Thats a horrible thing to say and I wouldn't be surprised if you don't get turned in to social services.

Secondly, have you had your child evaluated? Have you had yourself evaluated? Of course he wants to act like a baby, HE WAS THE BABY! And I'm sure thats the way he was treated until you decided to have another one.

It is not his fault that his parents can not handle his behavior. You can't talk calmely to him and you let his older sibling walk all over him. Thats not good parenting. And yet you wonder why, he acts the way that he does.

SHAME ON YOU!
 
This sort of thing can be extremely difficult to deal with and it's obviously driving you mad, but I think he is bored out of his head and needs more stimulation. You don't say how old he is - at least I don't think you do but it's difficult to read all your stuff when you've written it in text speak.

Have you ever watched those shows on TV which show you how to handle these sort of situations? They are really good and I think they could help you. Or maybe you need to actually call one of the shows and be in it and get the help you need first hand.

If you don't like the sound of that, get a childcare book (one which deals specifically with problems you may have) and really stick to what it tells you to do.

I had a similar problem with a crying baby (during the night) and I found this really difficult to ignore. My health visitor told me that once I had checked that the baby was ok and wasn't hungry, dirty etc., then I had to learn to ignore the sound. Once she'd said I could ignore it, it was like someone had given me permission and I found I really could ignore it! It was great and within a few nights my baby had learned to return to sleep by himself.

Good luck - but you must get some help sorted out as you can't carry on like this - and all your children (as well as you) will suffer more and more if you don't sort it!
 
stop being so whiny your self, kids learn from their parents. kids are whiny , thats the way they are. your the parent not him, tell him to stop whining and if he dosnt then ground him cus you will go to prison if you "beat the hell out of him once"
 
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