How do I tell my husband to 'man up', stop whining about being sick.?

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AngMyasMommy

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I have 0 patience when it comes to my husband being "sick".. It drives me crazy. Meanwhile, i've been sick for 3 days and still managed to take care of his 2 kids so he can sleep all day. I just think he's so overdramatic, it drives me crazy, could he really be that much of a sissy or am I just a jerk?
 
While I think you should be simpatic...if it gets to the point where you can't take any more days sick from work or have to run to get food for dinner..and your husband complains about you leaving then tell him this...

You're sorry he's sick but, when you're a parent there are no sick days. You'll be back at "X" time. If he's taht sick he needs to see a doctor.

If he has seen a doctor and put on bed rest or something like that then you should be more considerate. You know?

Use your best judgement. Have a talk with him and be understanding while getting him to see that kids don't let you take a day off. You're a team...you both get sick...you both gotta help each other b/c you've been sick too.

Good luck!
 
Perhaps his reaction to his physical illness is a symptom of dealing with major depression.

Another possibility is that he is seriously physically ill with more than one illness, such as diabetes, heart disease, etc. and this is all that he is willing to show you.

Regardless of what is wrong, your husband is not going to view your behavior as demonstrating that you are a loving woman. Rather, he is probably learning that he can't depend upon you when he's ill; physically or mentally.
 
That is all a part of being a man- they become the worst patients and the biggest babies when they get sick. That is also why only women have babies - a man could never take the pain. Ask any hospital nurse and they will tell you all men are terrible when it comes to being sick. You are just married to a typical man! Just be grateful he does not get sick more often.
 
Mine does that too...anything that happens to him (sickness, injury, etc.) is automatically worse than anything that could ever happen to me. When he is sick I take care of him as much as I can but when I am sick I still have to do everything around the house.
 
Woman: I have a headache
Man: I have a migraine

Woman: My throat is a little sore
Man: I have strep throat

Woman: I'm a little congested
Man: I have double pneumonia in both lungs

Woman: My back is a little achy
Man: I have at least 7 ruptured disks

Woman: I'm a little crampy
Man: The other day I had stomach pain and I was bent over from the pain and there for a minute I thought I was a goner. Oh, and I passed some blood too.
 
Maybe the the sickness was harder on him than you. It treats everyone a different way. If he sleeps all day, that means his body needs it. It is during sleep one recovers.

If you want you could hint to him. If a person at your work is also sick you could say, "(Name) from work has had the flu for the past week but he shows up everyday...yada yada. Chances are after that he'll get up and want to "prove" to you how "manly" he is! :) good luck
 
Men are sissies when they are sick.
Women are MUCH stronger by nature, of course. (Ask any man how he feels about squirting a bowling ball out like your child-rearing gender) and you'll see you have a higher pain threshold.

If you attack him, he will probaby rebel.
I would suggest ignoring it.
 
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