all serious awrs only pls)? just talked with a guy who a yr ago asked me out, but I said no b/c I wasn't ready. We stayed friends and now I like him. I flirted, and he became distant. So I asked him about it and he said he felt like I was getting too close and he didn't want to lead me on, but finds me very attractive and likes me as a friend but is not ready to date and said he doesn't want me to be his rebound (code for he doesn't want me). I told him the door was open, he thanked me for that, but no matter I still want to be friends and have no awkwardness and he agreed. he didn't say he was interested or not, Yet, aren't these all excuses for I'm not interested? A guy would date if he liked you no matter what, right? oh and when i told him one reason i didn't say yes to him before was b/c i wasn't sure of his intentions and he gave a slight laugh. why? Also, he KEEPS LOOKING AT ME and then looks away quickly when i catch him, but when we talk he barely looks me in the eyes now...if he doesn't like me why?oh and i emailed him about something and he didn't respond nor to my texts...he tries hard to ignore me and make sure he shows me he's not interested and it hurts. i've been through this with guys, which is why i try hard to keep a guard up! I just want to move on now, how do I do it?
It all started in highschool when my guy friend and I became super close. I thought he was too good for me eventhough I liked him, so never told him, but looking back I think he liked me too (he gave me gifts and back massage once) and said "you don't like me, do you?" when I was in a bad mood one day. For some reason he became distant and stopped talking to me...I took it as he didn't like me and we stopped talking, When I wanted to reconcile he would never speak to me and ignored my emails and calls.
In college, the guys I like end up not liking me back, but then I find out other guys liked me when i thought non did. One guy friend of my best friend would always ask her where I was and he told her I was pretty and smart. I was too stupid and had low self esteem and couldn't put two and two together. I figured if a guy wanted me he'd tell me/chase me. He stopped talking to me to and when I was ready to try coming out of my shell he ignored me, got a girlfriend and now we don't talk. He hates me too i guess.
I was so shy and couldn't flirt. I'm much more confident now, but still have stuff to work on. Bottom line, how do I stop this cycle of men hating me? I'm actually really nice/compassionate and caring and would be a great supportive girlfriend, but maybe come off as a ***** b/c i don't talk to them?
It all started in highschool when my guy friend and I became super close. I thought he was too good for me eventhough I liked him, so never told him, but looking back I think he liked me too (he gave me gifts and back massage once) and said "you don't like me, do you?" when I was in a bad mood one day. For some reason he became distant and stopped talking to me...I took it as he didn't like me and we stopped talking, When I wanted to reconcile he would never speak to me and ignored my emails and calls.
In college, the guys I like end up not liking me back, but then I find out other guys liked me when i thought non did. One guy friend of my best friend would always ask her where I was and he told her I was pretty and smart. I was too stupid and had low self esteem and couldn't put two and two together. I figured if a guy wanted me he'd tell me/chase me. He stopped talking to me to and when I was ready to try coming out of my shell he ignored me, got a girlfriend and now we don't talk. He hates me too i guess.
I was so shy and couldn't flirt. I'm much more confident now, but still have stuff to work on. Bottom line, how do I stop this cycle of men hating me? I'm actually really nice/compassionate and caring and would be a great supportive girlfriend, but maybe come off as a ***** b/c i don't talk to them?