I only ask because I have been TTC for 5 years now, and she is fully aware. She is pregnant with her third child and all she does is go on and on about how much it sucks to be pregnant. I am sure there are times when it is uncomfortable and I do try to be supportive, but doesn't she know I'd give ANYTHING to be in her shoes? It makes me ache when I really think about it. I don't want to say anything negative to her, but at the same time, what DO I say?
How do I respond to my friend who constantly complains about her pregnancy to me?
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thats a toughy. first of all..im sorry that you are having a hard time conceiving. i wish you the best of luck =] i would just sit down with her & really explain to her what you are feeling. sometimes pregnant woman can let their emotions get the best of them..not really thinking of others feelings. im sure she means nothing by it & isnt really thinking about how its affecting you to listen to that in your situation. let her know, that why you are happy for her...you also are upset that you are TTC & would give anything to be in her shoes. maybe that will open up her eyes ! good luck hun
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♥Sam
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Hi,
The next time she starts to complain just say, I would give anything to be in your shoes !!
Just give suttle hints that you dont really want to hear it all the time.... And if that doesnt work, Be more direct with her, Tell her how it makes you feel, (jealous) and just to cut it back abit.
But also there is a chance your friend is doing this because she knows you have been ttc for 5 years. Shes complaining to make you feel like your not missing out on all that much ? Just a though...
But best thing to do is just to talk to her about it, Drop it in a conversation...
Or just tell her how much you want to be pregnant and talk about your struggles in ttc.... !
Might help...
Best of luck ! You will get there soon
Ttc baby number 1 !! 6months and counting...
The next time she starts to complain just say, I would give anything to be in your shoes !!
Just give suttle hints that you dont really want to hear it all the time.... And if that doesnt work, Be more direct with her, Tell her how it makes you feel, (jealous) and just to cut it back abit.
But also there is a chance your friend is doing this because she knows you have been ttc for 5 years. Shes complaining to make you feel like your not missing out on all that much ? Just a though...
But best thing to do is just to talk to her about it, Drop it in a conversation...
Or just tell her how much you want to be pregnant and talk about your struggles in ttc.... !
Might help...
Best of luck ! You will get there soon
Ttc baby number 1 !! 6months and counting...
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Ally185
Guest
She may feel guilty that she is pregnant (3rd time) and you are not. Maybe she is saying these things to try and make you feel better? I know when my friend fell pregnant (she had not been trying and i had for 6 months) she tried to downplay everything until we had a chat, i let her know that i was genuinely happy for her etc. Now she does not feel so bad..
lisa mommy
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the next time she says"oh my god my back hurting sucks." you should say "I WiSH i could know!" and then she should catch on! you dont have to be negative but she needs to wake up.