the foreplay as me? I want my guy to grab me when I'm not expecting it and make me want to have sex like I do to him. I feel like I do all this work getting him ready to do it and he never does anything for me until we're actually doing it or we almost are. I want to get the massages, licks, nudges, everything I do to get him horny, but when he wants to make love he either gives up when I react only slightly (like him) or we already in the bed and he's making love to me in minutes.
I enjoy it when we make love, but sometimes I wanna be thrown on the bed and to fight a little as we do it. Even when I assure him that I want to verbally and I'm just doing it to heighten my enjoyment he's scared that I'm really fighting unless I've spent at least half an hour convincing him physically. I know it's good that he shuts down if he feels it's a rape scene but it's my fantasy.
The only way I can get him to remotely do fight in bed is by tickling him or playing with his moobs (which is something else I enjoy that he doesn't like me playing with). I love him and I try to make compromises. It's just things that arouse me seem to kill the mood in him.
I don't want to do dangerous or disgusting things. What's more it seemed like he enjoyed pinning me and a little role play last year. This year the only type of sex he wants is sappy I want to be with you forever sex (can be pretty damn good). I just need a variety. How do I ease him into kinkier sex without killing the mood by scaring him?
I ask him and I have explained that this is my fantasy. I communicate with him about it, but it's always next time we'll do the more active sex when we're less tired.
I enjoy it when we make love, but sometimes I wanna be thrown on the bed and to fight a little as we do it. Even when I assure him that I want to verbally and I'm just doing it to heighten my enjoyment he's scared that I'm really fighting unless I've spent at least half an hour convincing him physically. I know it's good that he shuts down if he feels it's a rape scene but it's my fantasy.
The only way I can get him to remotely do fight in bed is by tickling him or playing with his moobs (which is something else I enjoy that he doesn't like me playing with). I love him and I try to make compromises. It's just things that arouse me seem to kill the mood in him.
I don't want to do dangerous or disgusting things. What's more it seemed like he enjoyed pinning me and a little role play last year. This year the only type of sex he wants is sappy I want to be with you forever sex (can be pretty damn good). I just need a variety. How do I ease him into kinkier sex without killing the mood by scaring him?
I ask him and I have explained that this is my fantasy. I communicate with him about it, but it's always next time we'll do the more active sex when we're less tired.