I want a divorce for too many reasons. But I live in NY and it's tricky here. Although I have grounds of Inhumane treatment I can't let my 2 babies even go in a car ride with him. I need to make it so there are supervised visits or no visits by getting him on something. He has an abusive nature -not physically but emotionally to me and them and he's just terrible, always has been, and probably always will be. What sort of things or collection of things will make this work? Or how can I get some good proof...good enough for the court. I know if the kids were old enough they could say but they are not. Which in my opinion is stupid...I mean they could easily say things now...would it be counted for anything if they said that daddy is nasty and mean and only mommy takes care of them? What did it for you if you have gotten custody of your kids and the father has little or no visits? Should I videotape the way he acts on a day to day basis? Do family member opinions count for anything? What about what I think qualifies him as a bad father? I'm so tired of being this way....for years I've been unhappy and stuck around so the girls could grow up with dad but he's not or ever was good to them. I will do what I can I just need to know what. I really won't go through with this if he gets the kids in a way I don't want which is unsupervised or unsafe. Please HELP!
Oh for those out there who think I'm just trying to hurt him....no I'm trying to save my kids. He has mental breakdowns and everything. Totals cars and he really is no good. He works but the money doesn't even matter...I work too so I know we could do it. But again I need to be sure absolutely sure that this happens -you don't understand...He is NOT safe and he is incapable of doing what I do. He is incapable of compassion and love. i will document. I will do what I can...because I don't want him as an example any more of how marriage and relationships work. They deserve better...My life comes second to theirs. He is really unstable and he might actually have a mental disease. of which I'm pretty sure of but is undiagnosed?
Oh for those out there who think I'm just trying to hurt him....no I'm trying to save my kids. He has mental breakdowns and everything. Totals cars and he really is no good. He works but the money doesn't even matter...I work too so I know we could do it. But again I need to be sure absolutely sure that this happens -you don't understand...He is NOT safe and he is incapable of doing what I do. He is incapable of compassion and love. i will document. I will do what I can...because I don't want him as an example any more of how marriage and relationships work. They deserve better...My life comes second to theirs. He is really unstable and he might actually have a mental disease. of which I'm pretty sure of but is undiagnosed?
