how do i make history?

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Avenger

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ok, here is the thing. i move country in my early teen and i left all my friends that i knew since kindergarden back where i used to live. i couldnt keep in contact until about two years later.

now, i dont think i would be able to go back with them as i live so far, in another country and therefore we dont have much in common

but i wish i could and i feel so empty because i dont have history, i do, but its all fading because ive got noone to remember it with and when i see my friends around me talking about when they were in primary school i feel sooo empty.

i know i should start to make MY history so that later on i can look back and this will be my history.

but i feel like its soo...hum....unfair that i have to wait to have history when everyone around me already does.

i know there isnt much to do but what can i do to maybe feel better or what do you think i should do,act, react to this "lack" of history??

now i realise how History is important, i will NEVER ever again take the mick out of someone who studies history or say that history is boring (...)

btw im 15 now
 
Long term, you've nothing to worry about because you're making your own history now. As for your previous life, have you tried contacting people you used to go to school with on messenger or msn or myspace or facebook or via a contact site like friends reunited? On the last one you can add your name to your school and contact people who've already added their names.
 
I feel your pain...I moved countries several times, at 12, 20, and then 34. I have only lived in the last one two years and it took a whole year to even get a circle of friends going, leave alone have a "history".

The way I deal with it is by being excited about what these changes gave me - an opportunity to meet people and do things that I would never have had if I stayed put in my hometown. I have learned to be more self-sufficient, brave, extroverted and have a feeling that I could take on another challenge if I want to, and succeed again. There are many, many positives in becoming a citizen of the world and not staying in one place just to maintain old relationships.

Realise that you do have a history, and yours is interesting and unique. Just because you don't get to chat with your kindergarten friends does not mean you did not go to kindergarten. If you worry that the memories are fading, write them down.

Also, try to reconnect with your friends through Facebook or some other similar means. I recently found a friend I have not spoken to in over 10 years, and she was overjoyed to hear from me. Give it a try.
 
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