My bf and I have been together for 7 months, I'm 18 and he's 17. I know that he loves me, and he does a lot of sweet things like he often calls me before he goes to sleep at night, and he texts me every single day, he compliments me and tells me that I'm the best gf ever.
However, this is his longest relationship and he doesn't like being tied down to a relationship. A month into our relationship he almost cheated on me (sexually) but didn't, and called me right away and was upset for the rest of the day. He knows that I'm insecure and jealous of other girls he talks to, but it's because most if not all of the girls he talks to (which is only a handful, and they don't live nearby) are exes or people he "had" feelings for...
A month ago, I was upset at him one day and he accidentally let it slip that he had been thinking about breaking up with me because he didn't really like me for a couple days, and even told our friend. He decided against it and said he liked me again after he dealt with it. But he lied to me, telling me he didn't know why he stopped liking me. Later he confessed that this cute girl liked him, and also that recently his old crush started talking to him again. He said he didn't tell me because he wanted to deal with it himself, and that he knew he would get over it and didn't want me to worry. It really hurt me that he thought about breaking up with me, and I seriously considered breaking up with him. When he saw how upset I was, he came to my house even though it was past midnight and told me how much he loved me and was sorry and didn't want to lose me.. I told him not to talk to me for a while, and I was distant with him for a few days... We're back to normal now but he knows I don't trust him and really wants me to. And I realized that he's lucky to have a gf like me because I would do anything for him, and I'm doing him more of a favor than I'm doing myself by staying with him.
I do love him though.. He just has the personality that he wants to do crazy things and create exciting memories to look back on, so he doesn't like being tied down to a relationship.. I know he would never want to do something to hurt me, but if he is tempted he might go for it in the spur of the moment. Is there anything I can tell him to do that will make me trust him more? Or do I just have to try to trust him over time... He is really sweet towards me and understands me, but he is the type of person to make mistakes.
Sorry it's so long, thanks for reading.
However, this is his longest relationship and he doesn't like being tied down to a relationship. A month into our relationship he almost cheated on me (sexually) but didn't, and called me right away and was upset for the rest of the day. He knows that I'm insecure and jealous of other girls he talks to, but it's because most if not all of the girls he talks to (which is only a handful, and they don't live nearby) are exes or people he "had" feelings for...
A month ago, I was upset at him one day and he accidentally let it slip that he had been thinking about breaking up with me because he didn't really like me for a couple days, and even told our friend. He decided against it and said he liked me again after he dealt with it. But he lied to me, telling me he didn't know why he stopped liking me. Later he confessed that this cute girl liked him, and also that recently his old crush started talking to him again. He said he didn't tell me because he wanted to deal with it himself, and that he knew he would get over it and didn't want me to worry. It really hurt me that he thought about breaking up with me, and I seriously considered breaking up with him. When he saw how upset I was, he came to my house even though it was past midnight and told me how much he loved me and was sorry and didn't want to lose me.. I told him not to talk to me for a while, and I was distant with him for a few days... We're back to normal now but he knows I don't trust him and really wants me to. And I realized that he's lucky to have a gf like me because I would do anything for him, and I'm doing him more of a favor than I'm doing myself by staying with him.
I do love him though.. He just has the personality that he wants to do crazy things and create exciting memories to look back on, so he doesn't like being tied down to a relationship.. I know he would never want to do something to hurt me, but if he is tempted he might go for it in the spur of the moment. Is there anything I can tell him to do that will make me trust him more? Or do I just have to try to trust him over time... He is really sweet towards me and understands me, but he is the type of person to make mistakes.
Sorry it's so long, thanks for reading.