How do I heal a marriage borken from lack of communication and contact?

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My name is Kenn and recently I found that my wife has been so hurt in our relationship that she has started looking into other options in life, ones without me in them. The recent eruption of her feelings and the situation came about while I was back home visiting family for my sisters graduation. She was unable to attend with me due to her teaching responsibilities. Over the first couple days I had feelings erupt inside of my thinking something was wrong with her, after a myspace blog with a hidden message was posted my wife woke up in the am's tossing and turning to check it for some reason. After her calling me at 3am where I am we came across a serious problem of lack of comms and maybe more. My biggest problem is I am gaming addict who tends to lean towards playing my damn game over time with my wife. Her problem is she suppresses her feelings because of my comments I say without thinking about. I may have already lost my wife's heart but I don't want to give up. HELP ME PLS
 
I see just admitting to all of this as your first step, but have you told your wife all of this? if no, then you need to.

Before you two can fix things you each individually need to fix things. You know what your problem is and you need to find a way to work on that, obviously it sounds like this needs actual professional help! Maybe once she see that you are committed to working on yourself she'll stick around long enough to see if it will help the two of you! You need to be 100% honest with her, tell her your wishes, your faults, what you want to work on, and then DO THOSE THINGS, prove to her that it isn't all talk. Suggest couples counseling, and then work from there!

I think you know what needs to be done, your only choice now is acting and getting those things in motion, or sitting around and watching her walk out on you.
 
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