I have a younger sister, who is in her early 40's, who almost always has a verbal explosion at family get togethers. Her usual targets are me and my youngest sister. I learned years ago to tune her out. However, she pushes my youngest sister's buttons and they had a horrible blow up at our family Christmas get together. There was screaming and cursing and all kinds of mean things being said. All this took place in front of a 4 yr. old and my 10 yr. old. It is upsetting, disturbing and embarassing. I have no control over her actions. I know that. I cannot make my other sister ignore things because she is frustrated, too. This is just how our sister acts but it is not acceptable and I do not want to deal with it anymore. My youngest sister (and her family) told my parents they will never be back to visit here again. They will see us when we choose to visit them because my parents will not tell our explosive sister to stay away. So, that is upsetting but quite understandable. Am I wrong to not want extended family get togethers ever again? I am thinking of just having my parents celebrate on a different date and come to our house. That way, I don't have to deal with my explosive sister. She ruined the holiday for my young son and I am furious. No apologies and no phone calls since. She is self centered, hypersensitive, insecure, attention seeking, etc. Apologizing is not in her nature and playing the victim is. Any ideas on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
I have tried to speak to my sister in the past and it never works. She is NEVER wrong and is not open to any conversation that may say otherwise. Even if I wrote the most politically correct letter about my feelings she would twist it and make me the "bad guy". That is how she is. It is very childish, manipulative and controlling. Sad.
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I have tried to speak to my sister in the past and it never works. She is NEVER wrong and is not open to any conversation that may say otherwise. Even if I wrote the most politically correct letter about my feelings she would twist it and make me the "bad guy". That is how she is. It is very childish, manipulative and controlling. Sad.
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