How do I get my ex to leave me alone. After a 1 1/2 yr seperation a court date

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for our divorce has been set.? He moved several states away about 6 months ago however he continues to call and email me after I have repeatedly asked him not to. Additionally, most of these calls come at completely inappropriate times. I have tried being firm and even a little mean but It hasn't gotten through. He acts like we are still great friends; like nothing has happened. He also continually contacts my friends and family. It's an extremely uncomfortable situation and I am at my wits end. He is emotionally abusive and that is one of the reasons for our pending divorce. He also has severe drinking and gambling problems. I had planned on changing my phone number after the court date. Any suggestions?
 
Keep records of him contacting you and of you telling him to stay away; then file a protection from harrassment order against him. As far as him contacting your family/friends, there's nothing you can do about that. He can contact whomever he wants and if your friends/family doesn't want him to then they need to tell him to stop.
 
change your phone number and make it unlisted. Tell your friends and family member not to give it out to him. You cannot stop him calling them, it's up to them to decide whether they converse with him or not. There are psychos out there. I had to leave my ex husband twice. The first time I did it on friendly terms, and he started stalking me, entered my apartment WITHOUT permission, just because I didn't lock the door and he could. I couldn't get rid of him and go on with my life. I ended up taking a contract job far a way, and hired a divorce lawyer, and that was the only way to get away from him, cold turkey, that he didn't know where I was. Once the divorce was finalized, I carried on with my life - not where I lived with him.
 
Document all the phone calls: the times and dates he calls. Save and print the emails. Keep all this in a folder. This is more than being an annoying pest-this is harassment. Have your family document when he calls them. Save everything!

You can change your number now, why wait? There's no sense in being bombarded by a psycho ex.

Use all the info in court also. But you can file harassment right now! You can either get a restrainer order or a no-contact order against him and YES, he CAN be stopped from contacting your family and friends if you have it in a restraining/no contact order.
 
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