How do I get my daughter to wait until her finacee finish college?

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My daughter will graduate from college in May 2010. Her financee won't graduate until 2013 with a PhD. She wants to get married next summer. How do I talk to her about waiting until after he graduates?
 
Why is it that you want her to wait? Is it their financial situation?
Perhaps you could use a bit of bribery? Suggest that if she waits until after he graduates, you will contribute a little money towards the wedding or honeymoon - if she doesn't wait, then you won't contribute.

You may just have to accept that it's *her* life - even if you think she is making a mistake.

Hope this helps =)
 
Why do you feel that she needs to wait? If they can make it through the 1st 3 years of marriage and the long hard school hours of a PhD she may be more prepared for the long hours of residency that follow. And the long hours doctor keep. Marriage isn't easy or cheap, b/c expenses double.......but sometimes having more difficulties in the beginning help the couple to rely on each other and keep trucking times will get better. I married my husband after I finished college but we lived together 2 years before....total we've been married 4 years but living in the same household 6 years and had a share of hard times but also easier times. I feel we have a stronger bond. So what exactly are your reasons they shouldn't married haven't been together long enough, nor prepared enough........no one is ever full prepared to get married.
 
She's an adult. You're still her mother, but you really need to step back and support her decisions now instead of trying to guide her in directions you think are "more appropriate". These two sound like they're doing okay for themselves. Why don't you trust their opinion?
 
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