How do i cope with his mood swings?

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Me and my boyfriend are very much in love, soul mates, to be specific; which we both know and are extremely grateful to the universe for.
He is the perfect guy in everyway, especially for myself,

only problem is he will regularly go into this mood, where he is really distant, not at all affectionate and will get frustrated/worked up over little things that aren’t the issue and ignoring my existence.
It usually springs from a silly thought in his head, (usually always to do with loosing me) and on average lasts a couple of hours, then after waiting around feeling stupid and rejected ill ask him and he gives in and tells me and everything goes back to being perfect, if not more so.

This time however one of his moods has lasted days, but on a really subtle level, Im not even sure if it is a mood. He’s just being very unemotional and not his usual self..i don’t know how to go about it, because we don’t live together, and I can only communicate with him over phone and msn for the next 2 weeks because of work.


I just want to know if each time I should be willing to wait through this turmoil, because it really does get to me every time, I cant even go about my day productively!! And then be counselor and reassure him after it all.
Or if its something I need to tackle head on as soon as it starts, and tell him to snap out of it! So we both don’t have to go through with it again, because he knows what he does, and he feels awful for doing it to me.
much appreciate some advice, from boys point of view and girls.
hahah! he smokes ALOT of pot...
and we are both 20 years old.
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I have seen this kind of thing before, you just have to go about i tthe right way, observe yourself you will notice that you also have this kind of mood swings but in less intensity.Mood swings deals from person to person and it also depends on the person's history of childhood,genetic,how person is thinking that moment in which direction,.if your boyfriend's mood swings are very much in intensity.then he needs help.you can judge his intensity of mood swings like if says lets go and watch movie and suddenly after few min.he change his mind and want to sit back home.these kind of actions he does frequently,so this means he needs help.other wise you need to make him aware that he is going through mood swings very calmly.the person needs your support and his family to get rid of these particular swings.


Hope i helped.
 
ALOT of pot-dats d moodswings... but..
otherwise...He has to be more open wid u- If he fears he will lose u-even after u told him he wont then he has an inferiority complex and doesnt trust his luck. Talk to him-be after him -try to be funny or kiddish n try to get it out of him, if he gets mad then just give him some space-n meanwhile u keep urself busy wid stuff that actually interest u-besides work. I know u will feel low energy and constantly think about when he is going to get back to normal-but may be dats d way it is. A relationship is not exiting all d time. it has its highs and lows. After d initial frenzy-love-life settles down. But the Love of ur life is a constant so Cheer up! he will come back to his normal self if he thinks d same about u.
 
hmm...maybe his mood swings are getting longer because he's having some sort of difficulty with the relationship? you need to sit down and talk to him so your not headed for a breakup! good luck!
 
Whatever his deal is, if it's draining you this much you need to confront him head on. It's one thing to let him have his moods for an hour or two, but for it to go on over several days is not cool. That's just him being selfish. If he's depressed, fine, but that doesn't warrant ignoring you or treating you poorly.
 
You put up with it for a couple of hours then a day and then a little longer then nasty comments start and always he feels bad afterward and apologizes. This is how domestic violence starts, no guarantee that is where you two are going to end up, but this is emotional blackmail. He knows when he does it that you feel stupid and rejected, that is how he controls the situation, and since you have stayed for the hours of it, and now days of it he knows he can use this and you won't leave. By the way the apology followed by everything back to perfect if not more so, that is part of the classic cycle of domestic violence.
 
omg im so sorry but I dont have the time or patience to read your story, I would LOVE to help, really, but im too lazy. anyways I get 2 points yah?


kkthxbai
 
i was on a mood swing once and when i came off the trip i wondered if there really were swings called mood swings i would definitely buy one
 
Hrrmmm

Ask Tyra.

I was up late one night and seen her show talking about this very thing. It was pretty funny.

She sure thinks she is the greatest thing since sliced bread, It makes me laugh.
 
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