My boyfriend left for boot camp today and he’ll be gone for three months. I know that doesn’t sound like that long but I haven’t been away from him in 4 years. I’m just worried and scared. I'm worried he won't be safe and scared that he'll come back a different person. I love him so much and I already want him home. Help?
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How do I cope while he's at boot camp?
- Thread starter Elle
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bubbles_02
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Mines a Marine.
My advice to you is this:
1) Stay Busy! even if you dont feel like it, get out. Get a new hobby, hang out with friends, clean, pick up a sport...or two, travel, whatever you need to do to stay sane.
2) Dont let your life revolve around him completely. You have to live your own life too.
3)Write often. It lets you tell him everything thats going on and makes you feel a little more at ease as welll as comforts him.
4) Find things that help you cope and de stress. Bubble baths, music, singing at the top of your lungs in your car, crying every once in a while is not a bad thing, treat yourself to a pedicure, whatever it is just keep yourself as happy and healthy as possible.
I know its tough right now, but this really is a small taste of what the future will be like. Its rough, but possible if you love him. Just dont let your life revolve only around him and keep yourself sane. Dont forget to be HAPPY! I have to remind myself of that sometimes.
Good luck hun, I really hope everything works out.
My advice to you is this:
1) Stay Busy! even if you dont feel like it, get out. Get a new hobby, hang out with friends, clean, pick up a sport...or two, travel, whatever you need to do to stay sane.
2) Dont let your life revolve around him completely. You have to live your own life too.
3)Write often. It lets you tell him everything thats going on and makes you feel a little more at ease as welll as comforts him.
4) Find things that help you cope and de stress. Bubble baths, music, singing at the top of your lungs in your car, crying every once in a while is not a bad thing, treat yourself to a pedicure, whatever it is just keep yourself as happy and healthy as possible.
I know its tough right now, but this really is a small taste of what the future will be like. Its rough, but possible if you love him. Just dont let your life revolve only around him and keep yourself sane. Dont forget to be HAPPY! I have to remind myself of that sometimes.
Good luck hun, I really hope everything works out.
Nothing more to say but to either get used to it or get gone. He's going to be gone a lot longer than three months at times, and if you're already tearing yourself apart after less than 24 hours away from him, things don't look good for your future during those long deployments.
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Mandaleen
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He will come back a different person. Guaranteed.
But a better one, none the less. I've seen plenty of couples not make it after their transition from civilian to military. It'll be hard, but just...be understanding. And, of course, don't cheat on him, or go all..."crazy."
Women can do some crazy things while their partners are away. That's what I've seen with in my military career. It's just madness. If your relationship is strong, then you should be fine. But, he's going to undergo a HUGE lifestyle change, and may be thinking that he's too different now, and that you won't fit into his new life...so do the best you can to avoid that.
But a better one, none the less. I've seen plenty of couples not make it after their transition from civilian to military. It'll be hard, but just...be understanding. And, of course, don't cheat on him, or go all..."crazy."
Women can do some crazy things while their partners are away. That's what I've seen with in my military career. It's just madness. If your relationship is strong, then you should be fine. But, he's going to undergo a HUGE lifestyle change, and may be thinking that he's too different now, and that you won't fit into his new life...so do the best you can to avoid that.