How do I ask my father in law to move out of my house?

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My father in law is on my last nerve. He has lived with us for nearly a year and has worn out is welcome. I just had a baby 3 weeks ago and he had promised to move out by the first of September because he is sleeping in the baby's room. My husband is not nearly s anxious to get him out because he helps pay utilities and helps cook and clean. Despite his contributions, there are many other things that he does that are annoying and disrespectful. For instance he drinks in my house and gets sloppy drunk and my husband is an alcoholic who doesn't drink....help me. I don't know if Im being too selfish or if I am right in wanting him to leave. I have a family to raise.
I am on maternity leave now, but am returning in a month and I work full time. My father in law works but he is costantly losing his job or quiting and always looking for work.
I have addressed this issue with my husband and he tells me that I am an adult and need to talk to him myself. I have told him that I do not feel that it is my place to discuse this issue with my father in law because he is not MY father he is my husbands. I have simply dealt with things for too long and am annoyed beyond belief. Drinking is a huge issue in this house because my husband is an alcoholic and we had very sever problems in the past with it. The fact that my father in law is totally ignoring this fact is disrespectful. He does not understand why I have such a problem with it even though I have told him time and time again.
 
If your husband is not drinking even though his father is I see no reason for you to get this angry.
The man is helping with bills and his only vice that you mention is his drinking.
I would advise you to ease off and keep your husband happy.
 
Let him know that you need the room for your baby and that he stated he would be out by the first of September. Tell him it's time for him to find his own place.
 
Do you work outside the home? I'm just trying to understand the entire situation. What about dad--does he work, where's his utility and booze money come from?
 
You should not be the one to ask your father in law to move out. It should come from his son your husband.

You need to sit down with your husband and have a talk and tell him how you feel. Tell him you understand that dad's extra money and help are helpful to your family but his drinking and the possibility that your husband may start drinking are not worth it. It is time for your father in law to grow up and move out on his own.

Best of luck.
 
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