How did this happen???

[marisuela]

I feel like I am losing my mind!

The other day I went shopping with my 4 kiRAB and my husband. My husband took two of our kiRAB to another store and I took the other two with me. I had our 5 year old and our 4 month old baby and the 5 year old was jabbering on nonstop, demanding attention - she wasn't misbehaving in any way, she was just constantly talking and asking a million questions, and doing the "look at me, look at me" thing and was just going on and on. So we looked at clothes for her, and then clothes for the baby, and had been shopping about 20 minutes when my husband caught up with us in the baby section and asked me where my shopping cart was. I looked at him like he was stupid, because I was holding onto my shopping cart. Then he asked me where the baby was.

Up until he asked, I didn't even realize I didn't have her. I panicked, told him we'd only been in the kiRAB clothes and the baby department. He ran over to kiRAB clothes and the baby was right there in the shopping cart, where, apparently, I left her when I grabbed the wrong cart.

Can somebody tell me how in the world this could have happened? I had to have been without her for at least 10-15 minutes (we hadn't been in the kiRAB section very long at all), and I really had no idea. I didn't get that "I forgot to do something" feeling, or that "What's missing?" feeling or anything. I literally had NO idea she wasn't there. For at least 10-15 minutes!!!

I've gone over it at least a hundred million times in my head and I have absolutely no clue what happened. I'm completely freaked out because how can I make sure it never happens again, if I don't know how it happened in the first place??? Help? Has this ever happened to anyone else?

 

[Titchou]

Honey, my aunt left her baby in the cart at the grocery store and went all the way home before she figured it out! Went back to the store and everyone was playing with little Rita, just waiting on her to come back. Several years later the same aunt out her shopping packages during Christmas on the trunk deck of her car while she unlocked the car door (before remotes). She then proceeded to put her purse in the car, walk around, get in and drive off - tossing all the packages to the ground. Never gave it another thought till the front page of the local paper the next morning had picture of her driving off with the packages flying thru the air. Luckily, they called DMV and got her name from her tag and called her. A news photographer was walking by when she drove off.

You got distracted, you grabbed the first cart handle you saw and that's that. I know it's upsetting but it happens all the time. Don't beat yourself up.

 

[midwest1]

The best moms in the world sometimes make awful mistakes. At least yours didn't have a terrible outcome attached to it like ones we hear about on the news. Think about how many times you've heard about parents who left their children in cars to die in the heat? These aren't terrible parents. They're just like every other parent in the universe who have all made more than one potentially fatal mistake that simply had more fortunate outcomes than their own.

I don't mean to say you won't cringe when you think of it in the future. Want to hear the most awful mistake child-related mistake I ever made? Thirty-six years ago, I had carried my newborn in my arms into a dept. store on what was to be a really quick errand. Didn't bother to unload the stroller from the car, because it would be such a short stop. While there, I noticed a garment I wanted to try on. Had no where to put the baby so I could do that. A friendly but unknown-to-me woman in the dressing room offered to hold the baby while I tried on the garment. Yup... I took her up on it. This was in the days before you heard so much about baby theft. I was young and much too trusting. Talk about the stupidest, most boneheaded, dangerous mistake a person can make. You bet I still cringe about it, but I stopped beating myself up about it decades ago. (There's a difference between regretting a mistake and making yourself suffer for it forever. Subtle difference, but important.) You'll get to that place too, and I'm sure you'll be more aware of your fallibility from now on and much less apt to do it again.

 

[marisuela]

Thank you, Ladies! It helps knowing I'm not the only one!

I have been beating myself up about this for the past couple of days! It's just NOT something I've ever done before, and SOOOO not like me! I'm supposed to be the responsible one, and the good mommy, and the level headed one.... this has just totally thrown me for a loop!

 

[rudiraven]

You were just totally distracted by your other daughter and with all the things we have on our minRAB....it can happen. Shortly after my 3rd son was born we decided to go to McDonald's for a quick burger one Friday evening. I packed up the other two boys, locked the doors, turned off lights, etc. and off we went. We got to the end of the street and I suddenly screamed to my husband, "we forgot the baby!" Turned around and went back, the baby was sleeping in his crib where we'd left him! I was so shaken that I didn't go to McDonald's. My husband and the boys went alone and I stood by the crib and cried. It can happen to anyone....doesn't make you a bad Mom. God bless.:angel:

 

[marisuela]

Rudiraven, after my husband found her, I grabbed the cart from my husband and rushed off to an empty aisle, where I sat down on one of the shelves and just broke down crying! I sat there for a good five minutes just crying my eyes out.... my kiRAB just figured Mommy was wacked out on hormones again, and didn't worry about it. I think my husband thought I'd lost it completely. I was seriously freaked about it for the entire rest of the night. Felt much better the next day, but that night was just awful! I am SO grateful for these boarRAB, because it's nice to know I'm not alone in my craziness!