How come after I argue with my girlfriend I'm extremely tired?

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psychoninja911

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It's happened every since I've got together with my current girlfriend.

We're going on 3 years now... But that's also 3 years of healthy arguments.

EVERY time she starts screaming, I can't seem to hold my eyes open at all. Especially right after the fight - sometimes during.
She doesn't understand why I can't keep awake, and she gets even more mad at me.

There is never any psychical contact in our arguments. Usually is just her screaming and me trying to calm her down so that the whole neighborhood doesn't hear her...

She just stormed out of the house as I'm typing this...
(she has no clue I'm typing it) I'll probably hit the bed like a bag of bricks after this.

But do you guys have any experience with this? Or answers as to why I get so exhausted?

Could it be that the verbal argument takes a huge chunk of my physical energy too? Even though all I try to do is calm her?
Most of our arguments are over marriage.

After watching my WHOLE family (minus a few aunts) go through divorce... I'm afraid of divorce myself.

I don't have a foresight of possible divorce with this girl.
BUT - I don't want my family to look at me and go "Nope, he's jumping into this too early, just like the rest of us".


Maybe sleep is my body's way of trying to escape having to deal with this issue or even think about it?
Good lord I'm so confused right now.
 
It is very exhausting to be with someone who is always going off on you. It not only works on you during that time, it works on you all day because you know that you are going home to that. Then it also works on you all night because the unrest and yelling doesn't let you rest in peace. So it takes a lot out of you. It's time for you to move on before it does get physical, verbal is bad enough.
 
I am just wondering if maybe these arguments arent making you somewhat depressed. When we are depressed, we have a overwhelming desire to sleep to get away from it all. You should take a look at the website below. It offers a whole list of symptoms that do sound like what you have described. There are also some online screenings to find out if you have depression, but they are no match for a doctors treatment. I would suggest some counseling if you guys fight as much as it seems and you want to work things out. If you are falling into a state of depression, its nothing to be ashamed of, but you should seek medical help before it gets worse. Good luck--I hope things work out!
 
i think u hv hd enough arguments and nw u r too tired for the rest
thts the reason dis happens

walk out of d relationship
n be happy
 
Was there a lot of arguing and fighting in your childhood home?
How did you cope with the stress of that?

This could be some kind of 'coping skill' you developed in early childhood to manage your fear, rage, sorrow, anxiety, etc.

wanna learn how to make a good/better relationship????
 
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