Hi,
I was adopted early this year into a awesome family. This family, however, has a couple problems, one being is that my step brother is constantly treating my step mom like dirt - "calling her filthy names, blasting his music and putting up a fight for turning it down", theres hardly any discipline, once she said "you can't have friends over unless I'm here " - cause they were smoking pot and almost got us evicted, now he just does it anyway behind her back and laughs at her when she gets mad about it. She is too permissive sometimes and just gives in easily, It's sad to see her to this, I'm not a huge supporter of discipiline, but when you have a child who calls your sister a dumb cunt or bitch in front of your mom - something is wrong..
I've tried helping him in school, I found out he was failing english and math - I was very disappointed when I found out he was failing math, I said to him "bro, you're the smartest kid I know in your math class, and you're telling me your failing it?" to try to encourage him to finish whatever needed to be done, but he refused. Instead I ended up helping him finish his english work so he could pass..
. Every time he makes a dumb joke about our mom or sister, I don't even laugh - I thought this would show to him that I don't think that type of behavior is funny...
I don't know what to do, I'm trying to be a good role model for him, but he doesn't want to seem to follow it. Is there anything I can do or say to him that would make him think twice before saying or doing these hurtful things to us?
I can't discipline him though! I have no standing in this house! I'll try saying that's not funny or whatever next time he does something f-d up. If he was my actual blood line brother - yeah maybe i'd give him a punch on the shoulder when he would say crap like that, but in this situation I am not.
I was adopted early this year into a awesome family. This family, however, has a couple problems, one being is that my step brother is constantly treating my step mom like dirt - "calling her filthy names, blasting his music and putting up a fight for turning it down", theres hardly any discipline, once she said "you can't have friends over unless I'm here " - cause they were smoking pot and almost got us evicted, now he just does it anyway behind her back and laughs at her when she gets mad about it. She is too permissive sometimes and just gives in easily, It's sad to see her to this, I'm not a huge supporter of discipiline, but when you have a child who calls your sister a dumb cunt or bitch in front of your mom - something is wrong..
I've tried helping him in school, I found out he was failing english and math - I was very disappointed when I found out he was failing math, I said to him "bro, you're the smartest kid I know in your math class, and you're telling me your failing it?" to try to encourage him to finish whatever needed to be done, but he refused. Instead I ended up helping him finish his english work so he could pass..
. Every time he makes a dumb joke about our mom or sister, I don't even laugh - I thought this would show to him that I don't think that type of behavior is funny...
I don't know what to do, I'm trying to be a good role model for him, but he doesn't want to seem to follow it. Is there anything I can do or say to him that would make him think twice before saying or doing these hurtful things to us?
I can't discipline him though! I have no standing in this house! I'll try saying that's not funny or whatever next time he does something f-d up. If he was my actual blood line brother - yeah maybe i'd give him a punch on the shoulder when he would say crap like that, but in this situation I am not.